Am I being used ???

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so I've been with someone for 5 years and they stay with me do no housework pay no money or anything towards anything . Issues with there ex and he plays on games with his kids and I'm not allowed to speak just incase his ex hears me ...he doesn't want to progress with me and our relationship... I've been threw so much hassle with him in the past and abuse from his ex which he allowed to him and to me ... Also his hygiene is awful he goes days with out washing and it makes me really angry I've made comments and he don't seem to care !! Does he really want to be with me. Or am I just good enough at times? He makes out I do nothing for him even though I'm always picking him up when his vehicles break I do his washing and things yet he makes out I'm lazy ... He also plays mind games and makes out he didn't say things when I know he did ...why does he not want to live with me and have a life together ?? And why can he not get it's very unattractive when some one isn't keeping clean there's so much to this I've missed out but I'm so confused am I overthinking it is he a nice person or not? Help AHH

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He's a lazy, smelly gaslighting cocklodger who allows his ex to verbally abuse you. OF COURSE he is taking advantage of you. It sounds like he's with you because you support him, not because he really wants to be with you.

I strongly suggest you get counseling to figure out WHY you are putting up with his disgusting, disrespectful behavior. And get rid of him. No man is better than this disgusting waste of human flesh.

Dump him.
Throw him out asap.

Please value yourself and leave him

Very real

There is no way this is anything other than disgusting and awful. He is using you to have somewhere to live and can’t even be bothered to wash.

Any good points ? I think single by Saturday sounds perfect or wait another few years and let the resentment finally burn you out.

And you have to ask??

Are you mad?!

What does he bring to the table? Why do you want him to move in?

Why wait! Just both get down registry office!
Do you think ex would be a witness?!

If this post is genuine why are you allowing yourself to be treated like this OP? And why on earth would you want him to move in with you? For your own self respect end it and get some counselling as to why you think this is all you deserve.

Now list the reasons why you’re still together.

Ho sounds absolutely foul and yes, he is using you. The least he can do is allow you to speak when you want in the home you’re paying for.

Unbelievable.
Of course you are being used.
Goodness but you really have zero respect for yourself and neither does he.
That is all you have in common.

Get this filthy disgusting smelly waste of space out of your house.

Because he doesn't want to. It's a waste of time waiting.

If you don't live together why do you do his washing. Do you really want him to live with you, would he pay towards bills and food.

Aww he sounds a real catch. Does he have any bad points?

Seriously? Ask yourself why you've set your bar so low as to accept any of this behaviour OP. He's a fucking cocklodger, and a smelly one at that. End the relationship now and raise your standards for goodness sake.

He doesn’t respect you or even like you very much, and apparently you don’t like or respect yourself either. Why are you putting up with this? If this is real, you must have been set an appalling example of what a relationship looks like when you were growing up, so I’d strongly suggest some therapy. You will never get a nice family life with a waster like this.

Why are you wasting your one precious life like this? Why are you putting up with this horrible excuse for a man? A real partner would help you, love and cherish you ... and not be a disgusting dirty git.

The real question is why on earth would you want to live with him, OP? He sounds awful, like a nasty little bully boy that never grew up. Tell him he needs to leave your place and Never come back. And if he doesn’t put his shit out on the street and get your locks changed.