Men and masturbation

[Stella45]

Hi I’m trying to settle an argument with my partner and hope you can help. He feels most partners would be ok with the following where i disagree.
if you offered your partner sex and you’d both been looking forward to it all day but that night he says he has a bad head and would prefer to masturbate instead by himself next to you in bed instead of engaging in any sexual activity with you. I empathise with illness but then to prefer masturbation by himself instead. I felt a bit upset at this. It may just be me but I felt rejected for a hand. Just an FYI I don’t have a problem with him doing that at all usually. am I massively wrong here??

I’m struggling with the concept of scheduling sex and looking forward to it all day. Sounds so…twee. But to answer your question I think it’s okay to just want the end goal without the work, especially if you really do have a headache. And if he’d also been thinking and looking forward to it, he probably needed to relieve himself, but wasn’t necessarily up for sex

That’s weird.

He might have an std he doesn’t want to give you 😩