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[onemoresmartie]

Just could do with some advice as I am feeling a bit at a loss of what to do
I have been asking for a while now to be added onto accounts for our household bills we are married and have four children between us.
I have contributed towards bills since moving into his home several years ago I just transfer money to his account every month when I get paid.
Over the past year or so I have repeatedly asked to be added onto accounts or to see letters that come through and he's very cagey and defensive about matters relating to household bills such as utilities.
I have opened a letter today in his name and it is for nearly 2 thousand pound debt for council tax which I know is really serious.

I'm not sure how to bring this up as I know I shouldn't have opened the letter however I am glad I did now as this could massively affect my life and our home.

Does he have family/friends to support him?

He will be fine. And if he isn’t it isn’t your job to fix him when you have DC to prioritise.
If you stay you are letting your DC down.
Addicts put their addiction first. Above their health, their home, their families, partners, DC and financial security.
You’ll have a life time of this if you stay.
I hope you have stopped all the payments now and can start looking for a new place to live.

💐

He has family I don't know whether to speak to his mum....he hasn't gone to work so is also at risk of losing his job.

And you will be dragged down if you stay, he's made his choice it doesn't have to ruin yours.

Please tell their mum so she can protect them from what's coming.