Is he going to return?

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I was talking with a guy 35 years old (my dentist) and I'm 22. He asked me to go out and he told me that he will send me to schedule. After a week he didn't send anything so I sent and he ghosted me. A week from that he finally sent and we arranged the date, we talked a lot, then he got covid and we canceled and then we rescheduled, but the actual day he told me he's in a weird phase and it's better not to go out. We talked more than ever this month and then he told me that... Note that I'm leaving in a few days for erasmus. I want to do something him so much, I think he's interested, but something holding him back and I don't know why. Otherwise, why he told me to go out so many times. He left me confused, he will see me some day when I visit his dental center, but is he gonna reach out again after that?

Your dentist asked you on a date?

Pretty sure they aren’t meant to be doing that 🚩 wonder how many other patients he’s done this with.

all that aside though he clearly isn’t interested anyway. Find someone who is and who doesn’t use his workplace to pick up women.

Are you expecting us to predict the future?

Why do you want him so much? He sounds exhausting and flaky

He's too old for you and he's your dentist which raises huge concerns about why he is trying to date patients. On top of that he's unreliable and makes crap excuses. He's in 'a weird phase'? Please! He needs to grow up.

Find someone else.

You're going away. Are you going to return?!!

He sounds like hard work. Go and have fun wherever you're going to and meet someone you're own age.

No, he didn't use his workplace. He had my instagram and he reacted to my stories sometimes and sent me wishes for my name day or birthday. This year I started liking his stories too and I sent him hi and we started talking. When I went to his dental care he was very professional, he didn't show me anything at all. And also I'm leaving for 4 months so we wouldn't start something any way. I just wanted to get to know him, because I like him for a long time.

Pretty sure, after last update, that we are on ethically very shaky ground here

If he is your dentist he shouldn't be having a personal relationship with you. It's against the code of ethics.

Why? He´s not a psychologist, psychiatrist.

I had a brief fling with a 35 year old dentist when I was 17 or 18. It was an entirely regrettable experience! He's too old 🚩 he's flaky 🚩 he's unprofessional 🚩 and he's hitting up much younger women on instagram 🚩

Red flag bunting! Just leave this one and go and have a fab time on Erasmus.

Probably his wife holding him back.

It’s against their code to date patients 😳
He will knows it’s wrong and that’s probably why he’s flakey. And he probably already has a partner.

That was my first thought too.

It doesn’t matter. No medical professional can have a relationship with a patient.

He doesn't have a wife, I know his family and his knows mine. I would knew if he was married 100%

Well it's in the code of ethics for a reason.
The patient is in a vulnerable position when dealing with a member of the medical profession, whatever branch of medicine it is.

Then he's not that into you.

He's not interested, he's making excuses, don't date him, find someone who is free and genuine. I would also change to a different dental practice, he's been very unprofessional and he knows that.

Yes, it's a possibility, but why he talked to me so much this month? I am leaving for 4 months so we wouldn't start anything either way. I just wanted an interaction with him and to get to know him better.

Because he's a 35 year old man and you're 22. He was stroking his ego with you.

What's a name day?

He sounds like a creep.

What the hell does "he didn't show me anything at all." mean?!

As pps have said he's too old, he has a professional relationship with you that means he's contravening professional ethics and he's flaky. Gross!

There's no reason, maybe he is in a bad place emotionally, depressed, lonely, try not to think about it too much, it's just not meant to be.

It's usually the Saint's day that goes with your name. They definitely celebrate it in France and Romania and no doubt many European countries.

He doesn't want to see you.
He wanted a little ego boost, flirting with a younger woman. And he's done a bit of bread crumbing, probably ego boost or boredom. But he isn't interested.. he's made up some excuses and he wants to shake you off. Definitely don't turn up at the dental practice.

Do you think if Margot Robbie was interested in a date with him he'd have left her hanging like this? No chance!

So did you deliberately start using him as a dentist because you have a crush on him?