Is he going to return?

[Howtodate]

I was talking with a guy 35 years old (my dentist) and I'm 22. He asked me to go out and he told me that he will send me to schedule. After a week he didn't send anything so I sent and he ghosted me. A week from that he finally sent and we arranged the date, we talked a lot, then he got covid and we canceled and then we rescheduled, but the actual day he told me he's in a weird phase and it's better not to go out. We talked more than ever this month and then he told me that... Note that I'm leaving in a few days for erasmus. I want to do something him so much, I think he's interested, but something holding him back and I don't know why. Otherwise, why he told me to go out so many times. He left me confused, he will see me some day when I visit his dental center, but is he gonna reach out again after that?

No, we exchaged instagram, because we talked about something with my wisdom teeth and then I was starting have a crush on him

Yes maybe, but we had arranged everything. He would come with his car to pick me up, we had found a place to go, the time. Why even do this conversation if you don't want to go ? Maybe the timing is very bad, I'm leaving in a few days for 4 months, we couldn't start something, we couldn't even have a second date

It's just a crush, you shouldn't be on insta with any personal health provider, it's really unprofessional and he could lose his job, you really need to forget him and block any communication, find a new dentist.

What on earth does a little more than child offer this predator older, professional man? Big hint, no strings, ego-boosting flirtation and maybe sex that he can boast to his friends about, most of which will probably say something to the effect of “Jesus, [insert predator’s name here] you’re married. [wife’s name] will kill you if she finds out. And what about the kids?”

It’s not even the age gap here, it’s maturity. Go and live your life, finish your studies, get a good job and enter the professional world where you chase as many of these scumbags men as you want, but from a fair and equal footing.

That’s extremely unprofessional imo. What on earth has your wisdom teeth got to do with swapping Instagram? Hes over stepped patient boundaries and he could be disciplined or struck off.

He’s just not into you.

Men texting means nothing these days. He could have been bored texting half of his Instagram for all we know.

What's holding him back is probably the professional code of conduct, he shouldn't be doing it and he knows. Go on Erasmus and forget about him.

Sorry but that's madly unprofessional. I'd be reporting him to the GDC.
Would you think it appropriate for a gynaecologist to ask you out on a date while examining you? It's an abuse of power. And I think it's not only frowned upon but a disciplinary.
He sounds flaky anyway to the point he's probably not single.
Imagine chirpsing women/anyone you met in a medical setting as a professional?
He needs to sort it out frankly.
Neither date him nor let him near your mouth in a paid capacity.

It's ok, but he could just not texting me at all and not liking my stories and tell me multiple times to go out

OP are you by any chance based in West Yorkshire?

Just block him, text and wish him well but say this relationship isn't going to work, best he doesn't contact you again. Be the one to end it and move on, there isn't a relationship here.

No. I'm in a completely different country

If a man is truly interested in you, nothing will stop him from spending time with you. There will be no excuses.

That's the best lesson you can learn and I wish I had realised it sooner.

He is messaging you and talking to you to stroke his ego / keep you on the back burner in case nothing better comes up.