Online dating - feeling so down!

[Lizzie67384]

I’ve recently broken up with a partner and have started to use OLD, I’d say I’m averagely attractive, have a professional job and I’d like to think I’m a nice person.

I’ve had 3 dates so far - 1st date was okay but never heard from the guy after it, so I just left it and chalked it up to experience

2nd date - the guy seemed really keen, we kissed and then he asked me out on the first date for the following weekend but I felt the energy was wrong because he had gone from texting a lot to not really much at all, he then didn’t mention the second date so I left that one too!

3rd one was yesterday and again it was okay but the next day the guy text me to say he wasn’t interested and was moving to Oxford (!) (we live in south wales!)

Any advice? I’m finding it hard to not take it personally, I feel like maybe I’m actually really unattractive or incredibly boring?!

Thanks all x

There's a dating thread on here with a very good set of dating 'rules' at the top of the thread. You might glean some advice and solidarity from fellow online daters there...you need a thick skin for old these days!

Aw thank you! Will take a look now x

This is all very standard for online dating. I no longer use it it’s not worth the hassle.

Ive been single years though and like it that way so I have no motivation to ever use it again 😅

Haha, I think I’m headed that way tbh!!

I really think meeting someone on one is about luck tbh - you do get the genuine ones, but they probably get into relationships fairly quickly so routinely what’s on there just isn’t great 😅

Waaaah! Where’s the dating thread? The rules? What’s it called? I can’t find it!

It was hard work when I was dating last year.

Have a lot going for me, may not be Brad Pitt but have a good job, interests etc... and don't too too bad (always clean)... but getting likes was sooooo hard! Trouble is you just have to keep going

I’ve just looked and can’t find it either!! Would be so grateful if someone could link!!

I recently started OLD and it’s pretty shit. I’m chatting to a man now who seems decent but there’s a hell of a lot of time wasters, sex pests and general dross on there.

There are a few gems apparently but you need to wade through a whole swamp of shit to find them.

Ew yes the sex pests are so off putting! 🤢

For those searching it's 'Dating thread 250 - Autumn.'

Three dates is a low number. Expect to go on lots more. Learn about yourself and your needs, kiss some frogs, go through disappointment... it can really be worth it. Lots of us, me included, are very pleased OLD exists (on OLD about 2 Yr now with partner about 6yr).

www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/5170537-dating-thread-250-autumn

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/5170537-dating-thread-250-autumn

I found the dating threads a great help when I was OLD 3/4 years ago. And I did find a gem on Tinder of all places