Would this lie bother you or aibu?

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New boyfriend of 2 months. Has a female friend who he meets up with often, told me she was a new friend he met at a hobby, fair enough.
she came along to an event I was at with my boyfriend and some friends, she kept her distance and I felt she was throwing me daggers a bit. Boyfriend said she was just a bit drunk. I asked again how they met and he admitted to meeting her on tinder but they had never dated and just were friends.
we haven’t spoke it for about a month now but last night he said he was meeting for her a bite to eat and cinema. Maybe I was overreacting but I said it sounded a bit like a date. He said they are just friends, nothing to worry about etc. I asked again about when they first met and he admitted then they did have 1 date which ended in a kiss and then became friends after that. I do trust nothing else is going on now but I’m pissed off at the lying? I know he doesn’t owe me his whole dating history but I just had a feeling about thit

Sounds like he's keeping you both on a string.

The lying is the issue. You have had to bring it up several times now and draw out the truth like blood from a stone. I wouldn’t be interested in being embarrassed any further - it’s been 8 weeks so luckily he’s shown you who he is quite quickly. I’d call time on it.

At 8 weeks you should be completely wrapped up in each other and having an amazing time. Not telling lies and keeping secrets.

I'm usually one of the people in Mumsnet banging the drum that "Men and women can just be friends"

But in this case, nah, he's stringing you both along and keeping his options open. He's lied to you about this woman from the word go.

He's already lied to you. The writing is on the wall, I suggest you read it.

Of course they're going on a date.

Have some dignity, and do not do the pick me dance with the liar. Dump him, he's stringing the pair of you along.

Let him date her. You can do better than a lying two timing shit.

I'm definitely a 'men and women can be friends' person, but this is so dodgy. The fact that she was throwing you daggers makes you wonder what he's been saying to her about you. And that's without all the lying. This relationship is definitely not worth it.

You'd have to be nuts to believe a word he says, OP.

He's lying to both of you.
Time to bin him off.

Nah, every time you talk to him about it a little more of the truth comes out.
Lies seem to trip off his tongue easily, and you don’t want to be with someone like that.

You e been dating him 5 minutes, just stop dating him.

He is dating both of you. Get rid. Let her have him.

Yup, you’re both dating him and he’s telling her the same about you. Met you in tinder, just had a kiss, nothing to worry about, just mates.

sorry op.

He's keeping his options open, isn't he?

I dare say she's after him and hoping that when he decides which way to jump, it is in her direction.

He’s a player.
Up to you to decide if you’re up for a world of games, paranoia, arguments and depleted self esteem. If not, get out now.

Even in the unlikely event that it's innocent, I couldn't be arsed with drama and hassle like that personally. Women like that are crazy, she won't leave you alone.

Women like what? Women who've been on a date with a guy you're seeing?

I think it’s the man who is questionable,rather than the woman being crazy! But still too much drama for me

Try having a chat with her and see what she thinks is going on. He's probably said the same sort of things to her.

Personally I couldn't be arsed with the drama this guy seems likely to have in store for you.

Couple of months? Pfft. Bin him off.

Open your eyes, girl. He's clearly two-timing you.

Tell me you don’t like women without telling me you don’t like women.

bloody hell what a mysogynistic statement.

At 8 weeks you should be in the "can't get enough of you" phase - he should be going to dinner and cinema with you when he's got the opportunity, not some ex tinder date. How long has he actually known this other girl? I'd also dump him, he's stringing you both along.

He met her on tinder and is going for a bite to eat and to the cinema with just her? Of course that's a date!

Sat ok, nice knowing you, bye.

And don't look back.

"Met through a hobby" > "met on Tinder" I could overlook, especially if it was early on and he didn't want to get into the Tinder thing in case I judged him. "Didn't ever date and were just friends" > "dated", no - he's mischaracterised the whole relationship. I'd want him to be honest and say "I'm still friends with this woman I met on Tinder; there was no spark but we liked hanging out" and let me decide if that's something I want to avoid. I don't want a potential partner deciding what info he thinks I can and can't handle and lying if he thinks I won't like the truth; it's infantilising as well as dishonest.

It's early days; throw this one back and don't waste your time.