Partner Contact on Holiday

[BristolZoo]

I've been dating somebody for a few months now. Nothing too serious, but we are getting there.
He's away this weekend on a friend's stag party.
How often do you think I should expect hear from him? Once/everyday/several times a day/not at all?
I'm not sure what's reasonable!

A couple of texts would be enough for me, maybe once to say he's there safely and one half way through or towards the end. I wouldn't expect a phone call but tbh I hate them anyway.

Yeah just a message to say there safe, one to say on way home and either good morning or good night message just to know he had me in mind would suffice for me. No calls.

Once? Maybe not at all.

He's going to be drunk all weekend I expect, but I'd like to think he'll text a few times, just to check in.
Normally we would text at some point everyday, but I don't expect that.
I think I sometimes anticipate that I'll get annoyed at him, when actually I'm being pretty unreasonable myself!

I don't expect to hear from my partner whilst he's away. He would have prob put his mobile in a hotel safe for the weekend.

I wouldn't expect to hear from him at all.

Really!? Not at all?
Gosh, I think I'm worrying over nothing. 🤣🤣

Chip on shoulder, love?

Maybe just an ‘I’m here safely’ and anything else a bonus.

I'd expect to get an arrived safely message, then a good morning & probably a good night message depending on drink each day and some random photos of sights he wants to share during the day. Then an on the way back message / home safely message.

It would be nice if he did send a message or two but if he doesn't I couldn't be bothered about it. I would just think he is busy having a good time with his mates.

Yea. I hope he will text at some point, but if he doesn't, I'll just try not to get annoyed about it.
I could just ask him, but I think I'll just leave him to it and see what happens.

Once to say he's got there and then to say he's leaving or home.

I wouldn't expect any messages or calls from my partner if he was away just for a weekend. I'd expect a goodbye call maybe before he left for the airport, and a call on arrival home. It's good to have a complete break and recharge when you are away with friends. I wouldn't like it if he expected me to keep texting if I was away for a short time.

He's on holiday, so not at all. Maybe a text to let you know when he's back home.
Please don't be clingy, OP!

What is all this "check in" nonsense? You're fine. He's fine. You're both capable adults - nobody needs to check in. Just both enjoy your weekends, and then get together afterwards.

A text to say he got there safely and then maybe expect the odd text at random times that fit around the group but really he’s away with friends and they come first for the weekend.
I think getting annoyed about it when it’s so early on, and you have described it as not serious yet would be a bit unreasonable.

No one wants to contact their other halves on a stag do.

It's about fun, possibility and filth - so GFs and wives aren't really going to be top of mind.

Presume it's in another town/city/country?

I wouldn't expect to hear from my partner at all. He would probably message daily though. I went on holiday without him in the Summer and I messaged daily, he did reply but we didn't speak for the ten days.

Honestly, the best way to deal with early relationship anxiety over messaging etc, is to just not care. Remember they have to prove to you that they are worthy. Don’t get too invested early on. You are more than enough without a man. I wouldn’t expect a message at all early on if he was on a stag do and I wouldn’t message him, but I’ve learned over the years that, the less you give early on, the more they seem to want you!

@Itsbaloney 100% this

Where is he going ?

What's he like as a person? Does he text you much when he's on nights out in the UK (assuming you live in the UK)

That's nice, dear.