Lies, is it over.

[Lemonmelon1]

I've caught my husband out on yet another lie. He sees it as an insignificant one and doesn't understand the implications.
I sat him down a week ago and said he has to stop lying and start being honest and he promised he would.
Even when I caught him out tonight he tried to lie his way out of it until he couldn't.
Now he's tried to bring my illness into it and point the finger at that which I know is not the truth.
I feel totally taken advantage of and a massive mug.
Please what would you do?

It's hard being in a relationship with someone you can't trust. When he speaks you will never know if he is telling the truth.

I left my first husband for this. My life partner needs to be on my side. Someone that lies to me isn't someone I could ever trust and I didn't want to spend the rest of my life like that. We didn't even make it through a year!!

Take a day out for yourself. Come back and grey rock him. That's it tell him - you crossed the line. Pack a bag.
Leave.
No more chances,

Mine was a like this. So much better without that shit.

What did he lie about - being the last one to finish the milk? Being in debt? What.

he might have been brought up with a parent who hit the roof over little stuff or it might be fundamentally dishonest.

I think i would need to know what the lie was about first? can't really comment until we know i guess.

If he'll lie about small things, he'll lie about big things. Compulsive liars are hardwired to lie, about nearly everything, even when there's no reason to. You simply cannot stay married to a man like this.

It sounds like he's doing it compulsively and isnt in control. Is the relationship worth getting him some therapy to dig deeper to find out why he does this?

Mother issues my bet

Do you mean he is gaslighting you and saying it is your illness at fault, making you imagine he has lied?
That is not good. He sounds dreadful.

A friend said he is gaslighting me! He was using it to excuse his behaviour and make out I'm hard to live with. I'm no saint but I've worked damn hard on my mental health and 99% of the time it only effects me x

What is he lying about? When you say he's blaming your illness, does he mean he's lying to avoid upsetting you because he's worried about your reaction? You haven't given much information here so it's hard to form an opinion.

He's lied about something to do with his child as he knows I wouldn't agree. The only reason I don't agree is cos it massively puts the child at risk!
He's now saying I micro analyse things but that's only because he keeps telling lies x

Just his child?

no joint children?

definitely leave.

He's now saying I micro analyse things but that's only because he keeps telling lies x

Yeah, that's no way to live.

Yes his child who is repeatedly put at risk and I keep saying he needs to stand up for his kid and he doesn't x

is this a 'ex' thing...

It's him and his ex not looking after a poor kid and me wanting to protect said kid

But it's also lots of little lies to keep the ex happy and me at the same time. He's just a compulsive liar and bullshitter

Why do I have to love him so much. I hate this

ah! well hopefully someone will have an answer for you..

In the specific if vague instance, perhaps he feels it’s really none of your business if he and his ex agree on something relating to their shared child and doesn’t want the hassle of you having a go at him again.

But you say it’s part of long running issues so decide if it’s worth being with him and incessantly annoyed or realise love often isn’t enough, you choose not to be with someone so dishonest and annoying and you dump him.

How are they putting the child at risk?

This home n
Sometimes love isn't enough.
I can't see a way through this c

I can't say too much but allowing access to people and things that a year 1 child shouldn't be around. The 'things' being aged 16+ according to the nspcc

gonna say ps4 or xbox?

Xbox at 5 and now a smart phone with WhatsApp!