Ghosted

[ConfusedChristina]

I went on holiday with a guy, whilst we were away he talked about us travelling to Spain and everything seemed good.
We are not living together, however he said he would ring and he didn’t. Now he won’t answer my texts or calls.
l paid for the accommodation and he agreed, he would give half back, he hasn’t. He owes me around £500, what would you do

Stop going on holiday with strangers and footing the bill? What happened to coffee or dinner?

I was seeing him for three months, not a stranger

Do you have his address? Could you take him to small claims court?
500 quid is a lot to write off.

Sounds like he's not a very ethical person

You knew him a few weeks and you paid for him to go on holiday - why would you be so niave? He saw you coming

Three months, and you paid for his holiday???!!!!

I agree with PP, he saw you coming.

Maybe take it more slowly next time. 💐

I fell for the you are good at organising things, you do it and l will give you the money back. I trusted him…. Yes it’s easy in hindsight

£500 is a massive amount to write off, however in small claims, l can’t prove he said he would pay half. A friend has said, it’s a blessing l didn’t give him my bank details, as he could maybe have scammed me out of a whole lot more….

Not hindsight..it’s blooming common sense!

Completely different to dinner costs. £500 is a lot and I think small claims would be appropriate but only if you have proof (texts?).

I would have stopped at 'I'll pay you back after'

3 month is nothing crazy you spent 1000 on a holiday. He definitely saw you coming.

Agree. Never book anything and pay for for someone else without getting their money straight away. Its not exactly rocket science

Some bl0ody snarky, awful replies on here, OP. I’m sure you’re already feeling rotten as it is. You were very naive, but look at it this way: it’s cost you £500 to get rid of a knobber.

you might feel better if you pursue it through small claims. But take the lesson of not overextending yourself for men you barely know. He should be impressing you and wanting to contribute - especially in such a new relationship! I hope you never grace him with a single word again.

Stop being horrible to the OP. I was seeing someone for two years, he asked to borrow €500 and then he ghosted me. This happened in 2009 and to this day I’m weird about money. I was hurt and angry for years.

Thanks everyone, l appreciate your honest feedback. I made a mistake, it wasn’t the first and it won’t be the last. I am naive, l haven’t dated for around eleven years, my husband died and l was bringing up my children. I didn’t think he would treat me like this. My father used to say it costs to learn…..

small claims costs money, and l haven’t any texts to support he would pay half of the holiday, it was verbal. I would love to do it, however l think it’s throwing more money down the toilet

I've just watched a Netflix series called 'love rats' I believe .
If you can, give it a watch , it will make you feel better than you only lost £500 . I know it's a lot but some people have lost hundreds of thousands to these scumbags . Some of them hadn't even met the scammer .
Chalk it up to experience

You we t on holiday with someone you has only known for there months?

Chalk this one up to poor life choices as it's highly unlikely you will bet half back through the small claims court.

I am so sorry OP. You have paid dearly for a silly mistake. I wish you all the best and so knowledgeable that you won't repeat this mistake. Onwards and upwards! 🌻

I would be tempted to turn up at jis house and demand for my money that he promised to repay. But it's quite likely he does not have any. He's a scummo, if he can't afford it he shouldn't have gone on a holiday with you.
Did you always used to pay 50/50 for dates?

Don’t beat yourself up over it, it could have been worse.

In future get their half of the money first before you book.

we pay 50/50 me one meal, him the next . Everyone is saying three months is too soon to go on holiday together, why?

Because as you’ve found out the hard way, you don’t know this man. Its a few weeks into getting to know someone and going on holiday together is a big step. Its not so much the going away together, its the fact you paid for everything without getting his share upfront that’s really poor judgement.

Hes already shown you red flags, learn to spot them better and don’t rush in so quickly next time.