If you're in a long term relationship - do you ever feel horny and just want to jump into bed with your partner?

[Mankala]

If you're in a long-term relationship, do you ever feel really horny and want to jump into bed with them right away?

I've been married to my husband for a few years. When we first got together, I often felt this way. Now, I never feel like spontaneously having sex with him.

We do have sex, and I can get in the mood then, but it feels quite routine and is only at certain times on the weekend.

Am I unusual? I was wondering if others often feel horny at random times. For example, while you're watching TV or just having dinner or something.

In films you see people having sex on kitchen counters. We never do that and I never get the urge to.

Gosh no.

Yes. I'm a very sexual person though. Sex is extremely important to me in a relationship.

What you feel (or more accurately what you don't feel) is completely normal in a long term relationship and it doesn't mean you love your husband any less. This explains it better than I could: https://www.drpsychmom.com/responsive-desire-in-women-if-youre-never-in-the-mood-thats-normal/

Yes.

Yes. I don't want us to get into a sexual rut so I make an effort to be open to spontaneous sex if the mood takes me and we have available time!

All these types of threads I am convinced OP are men getting their kicks.

I like a fog horn they are fog horny

You’re not unusual!

Not at random times, no, but we have a small child so that would be weird when we are busy with him to suddenly feel that urge. But yes when I go to bed or wake up in the morning, I do. Certainly not most nights though, as I'm so tired!

Well yes, I certainly did in the early years of my marriage. And the result was we had 3 kids one of whom was not planned. Conceived in the kitchen on the worktop!
I was very attracted to my husband and we had a very long marriage as we met when I was 16 and were married the day after my 18th birthday. I miss him very much. He died 3 years ago - he was almost 10 years older than me so I always knew that most likely I’d be a widow. I’m in my seventies now and am not interested in finding any one else. He was my one and only.
Maybe I was lucky.

Yes, I fancy him. If it got to the point where sex was ever having to be pencilled in like 'oh it's Saturday night so it's sex night' then I'd be concerned.

Yes. You should try it some time, the more you get the more you want apparently!

With both of us having full time jobs and 3 young children, even if I do I can rarely act on it.

Together for 17 years and I still would have sex with DH at any opportunity. Having small children does make that a rarity though!

There's nothing 'normal' in relationships. If you're both happy that's all that counts.

Yes, but not as much when the kids were young. Now they are older the spontaneity is back.

This ^^

Long lasting relationships tend to go through phases. Lots of sex, less sex when child rearing, intermittent spontaneous sex when teens stay out, lots of spontaneous sex again when dc have left home, less when dc drop dgc off so dc can have the sex that they're missing. 😆

I think DH doesnt really give me a chance to feel that way. Our sex drives are very mismatched. I would be happy with once every week or even every 2 weeks. He would like to do it every day or more 🙈
We have settled on a healthy compromise of 2-4x a week and usually he is the one surprising me with spontaneously seducing me. About a year ago I once went away with DD for 2 weeks. There i definitely had that feeing when i came back. Now i dont really get the chance to fee horny out of nowhere. The feeling comes when we are in the niddle of it.

Yes. Just at the weekend I burnt the dinner because he came up behind me and suggested I might like to play with him instead 😂 😂.
I very often just want to jump him, but I do have a very high sex drive. If it's logistically possible is a different matter..!

Has been known

We sleep in separate beds due to snoring but most mornings he comes into my bed and we both get a bit horny.

He's an early riser.... in more ways than one.

Yes! I often come in when he's working from home and take him straight upstairs.

I don't get these sudden urges, but the Ex did and I really was happy to enjoy the spontaneity of it. When getting dressed in the morning and kids in bathroom or getting dressed was a favourite time for a quickie.
But don't believe all you see in movies. We always made a total hash of me on top.
Enjoy your day ladies.

I still feel like this but my wife is the opposite, when we first got together it was a lot more wild and adventurous but now we have kids it’s almost fitting it in when we can. Especially having older teenagers aswell she’s even more worried that they will hear us which is extremely frustrating as they seem to be home more than ever at the moment.

Erm, yes.

Yes of course, been together 28 years now.