How to cope with a sexless marriage?

[DessperateDan]

I love my wife to bits but since going through the menopause she has no interest in sex.
I understand that this is relatively common but it doesn"t stop me feeling lonely, frustrated and resentful that my sex life is over.
As I said I love her to bits and would not want to stray but by the same token I crave sex and affection.

It's really getting me down and I don't know what to do.

Talking to her isn't an option as she just shuts conversation down and leaves the room.

Help and or guidance would be much appreciated.

He's having to take a guess at the reason because his dw won't discuss it. In a healthy marriage a couple should be able to communicate better than this.

I disagree that its sexless from now on.
Once menopause is over the sexual urge often returns, particularly if her diet is good and she is exercising, and HRT can help.
Alcohol and sugar is to be avoided, and blood tests for anaemia, vitamin D and B vitamins. A lot of women bleed very heavily in perimenopause and low B iron vit D will kill the mood sure as eggs are eggs.
Psychologically, feeling bad about the changes in her body wont help, and feeling pressure will make her feel used and misunderstood. There are such strong mood swings going on then as well, largely out of her control.
Its hard for a guy to understand the massive changes womens bodies go through at puberty pregnancy and menopause as a result of creating babies out of their body.
And sexual desire is cyclical, too many relationships founder because of the societal notion that it should be 'on tap' and too many believe they 'deserve' it, or its their right.
A dry patch is often necessary to renew intimacy rather than take it for granted, so in that sense this is an opportunity to get to know her again, because in someways she is a different person. She is going through the death of part of herself and her mortality is stark.