What would you think of this comment? TMI Warning

[ItsFreedomBabyYeah]

Having some sexy time with DH. He tries to wipe a bit of 'pre cum' on my lip with his finger. It looks a bit pink tinged to me, so I refrain and turn my head away.

Later, he comments "Seeing as I won't taste him, he had better taste me then". Like he was having a barb that he would go down on me but I wouldn't allow him to smear cum on my lip. At the time it seemed manipulative or coercive.

Is it?

Or am I overthinking?

Appreciate different perspectives.

Pink tinged?!

Overthinking

Eww he tried to wipe that on your lip?.. i don't blame you for turning your head.

Erm, pink tinged.
We need to go back to that.

Why is it pink tinged? He sounds like he needs a check up.

@Ohfuckwhatdoidonow ; he insisted it was not pink tinged, it was my imagination. TBH, it could have been imagined.... the lighting was not fabulous

@Notamum12345577 he insisted I was imagining the pink tinge. It's highly possible, it was not great lighting....

Look there are times I don't mind cum on my face but this was not one. I like to be the one who chooses when & where. I don't particularly like it randomly smeared.

I mean I'd just say it looked a bit dodge to me so I didn't fancy it. It's no more complicated than that hubs

If he has a habit of snarky comments and undermining your feelings about something then that's the issue

cunnilingus from a man who's thinking about wee comments to score points mmmm sexeeee

Yuk, YANBU.

If he didn't know or realise that it was pink tinged, and you didn't say, then he might have been a bit surprised or hurt if it's something you usually do as part of your 'sexy time'. Presumably he went down on you and you enjoyed it and all was ok after that.
But the pink tinged thing makes me think he needs to see a doctor. Just ask to see again in a non judgemental way. I would presume it might be UTI. But I guess if it's something else he's got some explaining to do. Insist he sees a doctor either way and if he's defensive that's a bit of a red flag.

Pink tinged he needs that checked and depending on age that could be serious.

If he refused to go down on you, that would be the red flag.

Seriously, isn’t that something between you and your husband rather than for Mumsnet. Massively overthinking, I can see why he’d be offended also. It’s a spontaneous act during sex, if you don’t like it for the future, tell him. If you think he’s got an infection or something, tell him. I was enjoying my cup of tea before I read that

I think that he was trying to be "sexy" and, when rejected, went ahead and satisfied you anyway. You need to have a little chat with him as to why you rejected his "sexy move", but I think that his comment is tinged with a bit of sadness rather than any attempt at manipulation? I would have that chat.

Chuckling a bit at @RubyRosieRoyce's comment about her tea! 😀

All the best OP! 🌼

I agree. He’s sad because you are intimate, so intimate that for you to essentially cringe at it makes him feel rejected and like you’re not as in to him, like the way you’d feel if anyone else rubbed their stuff on you. We humans can be stupid with this stuff but it’s definitely a thing. Like men who won’t go down on a woman, and it hurts because it makes the woman question whether he’s grossed out by her (I’ve seen posts like this on here also)
My ex sucked my fingers once and I cringed, but only because I was still a smoker then, and I felt grossed out that he would be grossed out. He was hurt but I explained, so just explain that you love these sexy intimate things but just the pink stuff threw you

The teas gone now, so I’m all in with this 🤣

@RubyRosieRoyce (not a long time lurker)
@ op.. did you say "that's pink,wtf?"
Co erc = doing something you genuine unaware was planned.
Whilst... Pink as you like m8 is...fine.
Pink pre /full on is the bigger issue.
Unless "finger food"(shut up,a hate me)pre all this

Actual' I missed the bit where that bright red pakora was finger food
Having read back,the full thread.am calling it bedtime (also,spit,don't swallow)

Later, he comments "Seeing as I won't taste him, he had better taste me then". Like he was having a barb that he would go down on me but I wouldn't allow him to smear cum on my lip. At the time it seemed manipulative or coercive.

Is it?

What happened then? Did he happily go down on you without expecting you to return the favour? and was he fine with you afterwards?

If so then I'd say it doesn't really come across as manipulative or coercive..agree with a pp that it sounds like he was trying to be sexy after being rejected or a bit playful maybe.

I agree that he dealt with it in a really kind and playful way. Humans aren’t robots. I’m assuming you do love him and care about his feelings? There are so many ways someone could have dealt with that kind of rejection and seems he chose the most generous and mature way

Tell him you’ve got a kink for men who ejaculate on sheets of white paper… then you’ll find out if it really is pink tinged!

Overthinking.

Thanks for all the replies. Seems I probably was overthinking.

As for the 'pink tinge'. I was stimulating him by hand for a bit....i then stopped...he later grabbed his fabulous, delicious member and gave it a good squeeze to get a drop of 'pre cum', which is when I thought it looked a bit pink tinged, but he had given it a good squeeze and "forced" a bit out... thats how it seemed to me.... I didn't mean to reject him, but can understand how it may have come across that way....

He's got bigger worries than you rejecting him here, he needs to see a Doctor ASAP. Pink tinge, possibly blood, needs checking out. I speak from experience. It could be a simple infection but he really needs to see someone medical very quickly.