I sent my ex a message this morning trying to be friendly. We have a LO and our coparenting communication is mainly done through his DM and I. I still want the 'family' image that I pictured before and spend a lot of time thinking about him. I said that 'I hope you don't mind me getting in touch but I had been thinking of you a lot and am happy to hear about the new job. I am glad things seem to be going well and I hope you enjoy your holiday'
He replied a few hours later with a polite/vaguely friendly message saying 'Hi, it's nice to hear from you. It has been difficult few months with the unemployment but things are turning a corner. I'm managing myself as best as I can and it's been a difficult and emotional time. I hope you are well too. It's been a strange six months for both of us.'
This man was the LOML (to cringingly quote T Swift) before our split and we've been NC since the start of the year. I am glad he replied but I'm not it's left the door open for a reply from me