Seeing someone and they have slept with their ex

[Anonymous944]

Hi.
i know im not going to be popular on here. I slept with a co worker who had a partner of 11 years and 2 you children. 1 being 3 months.
they mutually ended it and about a month after I started seeing him. He is a devoted dad and sees his children every day. He told me he was going on holiday with ex and children which I agreed. Since he has come back off holiday he told me he has slept with his ex on 2 separate occasions and was flirty with her. He says he doesn’t wanna be with her and wants to see how things go between us. What do I do??

Or a cheetah?

I doubt he's even split up with his ex - you're his side piece. Bin him.

I thought you were happy to sleep with him while knowing he also sleeps with his wife?

Oh I apologise did my dyslexia upset you?

glad hes mucking you about, cos you deserve it really. I suggest you stick around and keep taking him back and seeing how it goes, till he gets sick of you and moves on, cos why not? his community dick must be so precious to stick around for eh.

Basic integrity and responsibility are traits you want in a partner.

He has none.

He fucked another woman while with his partner, 12 weeks after she gave birth to his baby. Before he ended their relationship.

The he fucked his "ex" while with his new girlfriend.

You want to throw your lot in with this specimen?

Why be monogamous and focused on him, when he's not monogamous??

Get out and meet other men.

He's not with you, he's with her.

Clearly you should marry him and have kids, he sounds wonderful.

Exactly, it's a no brainer

I will add he has also since had a vasectomy so I won’t be having kids with him.

even better then, stick around and enjoy your just desserts

Scumbags gonna scumbag, OP

Go get yourself tested first of all. You are unlikely to have been the first and possibly not the only.

You knew he was a cheater, he has proven he has no problem cheating on you either. You won't ever trust him and will always be questioning the time he spends with his ex and more than likely, every other woman.

You don't need to see where it goes, you already know how it's going to go. Clean break and keep it professional at work.

There are plenty of cheats out there, some of them are currently single if that's the type you want.

And do you need to quote the entire OP?

*I slept with a co worker who had a partner of 11 years and 2 you children. 1 being 3 months.

he has slept with his ex on 2 separate occasions*

This dude has trouble keeping control of his (probably unimpressive) cock with woman he's not in a relationship with (while he's supposed to be in a relationship with a other one).

Are you sure you wanna be at home down the line; with his 3 month old baby, knackered, breast feeding, sleep deprived, possible birth injuries from an episiotomy or a tear or something etc.

Edit. I see you think you won't have kids with him. You must still be able to appreciate what sort of person does what he did with a partner and 12 week old at home, whether they were "getting on" or not.

(And I bet he was more responsible for them not getting on. Cause she's not out fucking her work colleague, with him at home with the baby, is she?)

Make sure you're not pregnant too. It's a very recent vasectomy and they aren't 100% guaranteed either.

Dump him.

This.

Do you already have kids?

If not, might you ever want them?

If so, he's useless for that too.

I'm not entirely sure I'd believe him on this.

He's probably just told you that so he can have unprotected sex with you.
Although you should be using condoms anyway, especially with a bloke who sleeps around.

Essentially, he's scum, and so are you, and you deserve all you get.

Didn't you once think of his unfortunate wife and children?

And how very generous of you to "agree" that he could go on holiday with his own wife.

She doesn't sound like a very definite ex. Find someone else. If he really liked you he wouldn't have done that.nif I had to guess, theyll be giving it another go by Christmas and you'll be working together feeling humiliated.

He's probably just told you that so he can have unprotected sex with you.
Although you should be using condoms anyway, especially with a bloke who sleeps around.

Yeah I wondered that too.

they mutually ended it and about a month after I started seeing him.

I bet they didn't

This is a Jeremy Kyle man sharing situation.

You can stay in it for as long as he does it with her (or another woman).
He gets two woman while you get one man.

Or you see & shag other people too, and hopefully you'll find one way better ....

Or better still just fuck him off and see other people.

Men aren't an endangered species.

Don't let the oxytocin from sex make you a doormat and saddo ... Hanging around waiting for him to finally choose or be faithful.
.

If he can lie to you and lie to his so called ex, he can lie about his vasectomy.

DUMP