I’m breaking up with my partner of 4 years, it ended over a dinner.

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We’ve had rough times but I’m actually done already have a job lined up and moving back in with my folks.
I’m F24, partner (now ex-partner) M30.

It’s funny it ended after I cooked dinner today, took me 2 hours because it was a roast chicken with all the trimmings and sides and he just went to bed and said he wasn’t hungry. Note he hadn’t eaten anything because he’s a drug addict. I spent 2 hours making a well-balanced meal because all he eats is junk and he doesn’t want it. I was ready to walk out yesterday after years of putting up with his drug use, blatant neglect and lack of love. I forced every ounce of care I had left and now it’s gone. My trains in a couple days and my stuff will have to be sorted but I’m hopeful for the future, I went on a 6 mile walk yesterday pondering this after I had a breakdown. I felt like half a person being with him, always worrying and not going for my dreams. Anyway, I just wanted to vent. Hope that’s okay here 😵‍💫

Sounds like a very healthy decision you've made! Stick with it, just go!!

You have your whole future ahead of you, good luck with everything!!

Good for you, put yourself first now. Some people just can't be helped. Good Luck for your future. 💐

Great decision OP. It's a lot for you to unpack, but trust me, you're 100% better off out of that situation. You won't regret it xx

Well done lovely 👏🏻

I'm (plenty) old enough to be your mum & I bet your parents can't wait to have you safely home. Do they know he's a DA? If not you should tell them. tell them now, what you need them to do/say if you want to go back to him. Help them, help you, while you are strong!

there will be times you'll miss him & having someone, while you know you're doing the right thing, write some of the reasons & example down why you know it's the right thing.

youve been great getting away, but the hard part starts now , staying away.

best of luck with the new job & new start 🤗'

Good luck with everything! One day you will look back and not believe the things you put up with. Remember it's normal to miss someone even when you've made the choice to leave them, it doesn't mean it was the wrong decision. You have so many lovely years ahead😊theres more to life than being with someone like that.

Good for you, OP. I hope you'll be very happy and successful in your new life. You deserve it. Don't let anyone suck you into their bottomless need ever again.

I don't think him not eating a roast dinner that you spent 2 hours cooking is the problem.

Him being a drug addict is.

Oh sweetheart, if you were my DD (and I have kids your age) I would drive to you tonight rather than have you wait another 2 days with that piece of shit. You have made a brilliant decision, and weirdly its good he acted like this because he helped the scales to fall from your eyes. Onward and upward!

But.....stay safe. If he is likely to get angry or violent, keep your leaving secret until you have gone. Above all, stay safe.

Well done for making the descision & acting on it. Well done for having a boundary & sticking to it.⭐

Think what OP is saying is the cooked dinner that was shunned by the druggie after she had gone to the effort of making it is the straw that broke the camel's back. Its been an accumulation and OP has had enough.

Best of luck OP.

The rest of your life will thank you for this very wise decision. Don't ever, ever look back.

Well done. I would go as soon as you can incase he gets a bit handsy with you.

Well done! Your future is looking much brighter after this decision. Never again allow a man to drag you down.

Well done you! You can’t be loved by an addict. All you will get from them is empty words while they use you to facilitate their addiction. I’m sorry you have lived through this for so long but so proud of you for getting out.

good on you, make the most out of the only life you have :)

Well done. When you've had a bit of time on your own and feel like dating again, make sure you're not repeating a pattern of trying to 'fix' someone with a problem. Good luck with the new job and the rest of your life.

I bet your parents are sighing with relief. You’ve finally advocated for you, put yourself first. Good luck with your new job.

Sometimes it takes one tiny fairly innocuous event to suddenly realise that a relationship is over.

this is exciting, the door of opportunities you have just opened for yourself! only think forwards and about the things you have to look forward to, and how much happier you will be in a few months time

you got this💪🏽🩷

Well done you. This is so refreshing - to read about a young woman putting herself and her future ahead of an addict. . I wish you all the best.

You're the same age as my DD, who coincidentally was dating an alcoholic. She put up with it until she realised what a waste of time, effort and love it was, being with a guy who put drink before her - every time!

Good luck and best wishes for your future!

Appreciate this 😊 my dad works nights unfortunately so I don’t want to mess up his schedule or I would’ve asked him to pick me up. Also have a few work meetings that needed to be wrapped up this week so have to stay until Thursday. But can’t wait to just get out of here.

I know several woman who ignored the red flags after a period of time of being involved with a man. Then they refused to listen to family or friends who tried to tell her that he was not good due to he did and or said.
Then say a few years later they have a child or children and they find it harder to leave and it could be something very minor that pushes them to leave.

You done the best thing here for yourself because he was never going to change. I would do the freedom program so it will help you get to know the red flags and avoid another relationship with a man like him.

Good for you!

Steer clear of addicts and all other people who are completely unavailable to you in future.