I’m breaking up with my partner of 4 years, it ended over a dinner.

[Faeforge]

We’ve had rough times but I’m actually done already have a job lined up and moving back in with my folks.
I’m F24, partner (now ex-partner) M30.

It’s funny it ended after I cooked dinner today, took me 2 hours because it was a roast chicken with all the trimmings and sides and he just went to bed and said he wasn’t hungry. Note he hadn’t eaten anything because he’s a drug addict. I spent 2 hours making a well-balanced meal because all he eats is junk and he doesn’t want it. I was ready to walk out yesterday after years of putting up with his drug use, blatant neglect and lack of love. I forced every ounce of care I had left and now it’s gone. My trains in a couple days and my stuff will have to be sorted but I’m hopeful for the future, I went on a 6 mile walk yesterday pondering this after I had a breakdown. I felt like half a person being with him, always worrying and not going for my dreams. Anyway, I just wanted to vent. Hope that’s okay here 😵‍💫

I'm sorry you're going through this but also happy that this relationship is over and you can break free and move on. While it may hurt now I'm very sure it's for the better. Trying to maintain a relationship with a drug addict is very hard and dangerous because he can pull you down with him. And then what happens if you have kids with him?

You're 24 and have a lot of life and living ahead of you, you should not have to deal with all the baggage and stress that comes with trying to maintain a relationship with a drug addict.

I wish him all the best with his troubles but you need to focus on you and prioritize you. As others have said one day you will look back and wonder WTH did I go through all that?

I'm glad you have your family to rally round and support you. Please please please do not go back to him, he will most likely come begging at some point and make all the promises in the world but remember addicts lie.

I think you got a lucky break here that he left, I know many people who get stuck in similar relationships and the addict uses emotional blackmail such as threats of commiting suicide etc to keep their partners or girl friends stuck in unhappy abusive relationships. He has given you an easier way out so seize it and never look back.

I wish you all the best and I'm sure you will find that someone who appreciates you and respects you and you can both grow together and thrive together.

Congratulations OP, you are wise beyond your years. And your future self is doing a dance of joy :-). Good luck!

You are amazing. I hope you live a happy rest of your life! Block him on everything. Onwards and upwards x

Well done OP, you are doing the right thing x

@Faeforge well done for coming to this decision! your parents, I am sure, will be over the moon at having you safely back under their roof. I am sure your dad would love to help you move but if it just isnt possible, try to have another male with you at the time, just in case he kicks off! good luck in your new life x

Well done OP. Good for you for looking out for yourself. Onwards and upwards!

A great decision, stay strong & resolute. You sound very conscientious but I'm sure your DDad wouldn't mind minor disruption to his schedule in order to bring you home safely. Also that work would understand. If you feel unsafe, don't hesitate to just leave.

Very sensible decision, a great life awaits you.
It’s not always easy, even though the circumstances are often dire, to see the way through but your future self will be so glad you made this choice.
It’s the first day of the rest of your life OP, congratulations 🥳

Any chance of a doggy bag of the roast?

he’s a drug addict

That's honestly the only explanation you need to give. Well done for getting away. You've done the right thing - and you're only 24! Practically a baby. You've got a whole amazing life ahead of you.

Thank goodness you saw the light.

Stay away from addicts. No matter the addiction. Addicts ruin lives.

Can you book yourself into a cheap hotel or AirBnB for a couple of nights so that you can get yourself out of there right now?

Then remember to block him on all channels. Just walk away and never look back.

I was in your shoes at the age of 23. It was the best thing I ever did.

Definitely lucky in that there are no kids so she's not tied to him. A clean break is much easier.

The experience can also be a good lesson for any future relationship in knowing what to avoid (men with drug habits for one).

I know I don't know you but reading that, I'm so proud of you.

@Faeforge sorry you are going through this. But you have to look after yourself. If that means going it alone then its probably best. At least someone will appreciate your cooking x sending hugs 🫂, flowers 🌹 and peace 🙏

Well done you

your life is too short and precious to waste on some junkie.

I did what you did when I was I think 22? Hardest decision of my life and to this day still sad I had to make it but 100% was it the right one. You are worth it!

Your parents must be so happy you have made such a wise decision. You can never have a decent life with a drug addict. You are young - don't waste your precious time on losers. You are worth so much more than that. I can only wish you joy and happiness as you move forward. You've got this!

Oh well done, lovely!
Make sure you get out safely. Tell your parents what's going on. Your dad may be happy to come and get you, let it be his choice.
Same with work - your safety is more important than a few meetings, always.
Good luck.

But can’t wait to just get out of here.

Keep that burning, love. Don't let go of that feeling. Keep planning.