How to ask someone not to do/say an icky thing?

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Is it ever ok to ask something to not do something that gives you the ick? And how do you word it nicely?

My boyfriend is great but sometimes makes a noise like Tigger from Winnie The Pooh. It’s thankfully not his actual laugh but more a noise of exclamation or seeing something silly. Thankfully it’s never during sex, but I find it really unattractive.

I don’t want to leave him over this but I don’t really want to hear it again in case my vagina dries up forever. I have a habit of being quite direct which can hurt feelings as things can be taken personally - how can I say something in a gentle way?

😁😂 WTF?!

I think you need to lean into it. Tell him you love this and it turns you on and that it will make your fantasies come true for him to say it during sex repeatedly, on each thrust perhaps. Wooohoohooo wooohoohooo

It doesn’t seem much of a crime to me?

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Well, I'm not sure there is a nice way to talk about it in strong enough terms to actually get him to stop without upsetting him. You can mention it in a light-hearted way and hope he takes the hint. But I think you should either prepare yourself to put up with it forever or let him bounce off elsewhere..! I'm sure most couples irritate each other somehow, you've gotta decide if this one's worth it!

Thanks for the video 😄

No, no, no!

She needs to say it loudly whenever he takes his pants off! That's the sexy noise of suprised joy right there...

If I cut one of his red jumpers short enough we’d be able to complete the scene and still do the deed 👍👍😭😭

It’s part of his personality, I don’t think you could reasonably ask him to stop. Either you have to accept it or let him be with someone who finds it endearing, not grating.

Generally I don’t find men are too sensitive about these things.

Mine had a thing like this (think Jim Carey ‘Alrighty then’). I told him something like ‘oh no you said that off putting thing again. I won’t be in the mood for sex now for at least 24h’.

Bye bye Jim Carey.

We do have a lighthearted approach to the relationship though so he just laughed a lot and didn’t seem offended.

Better than waiting until you have to end the relationship?

Good luck finding a way! 🐅

I think it’s hard to call someone out on their annoying behaviour while talking like a four year old and using the ‘word’ ick.

Do you actually fancy him, OP?

This sounds like it's a symptom of a bigger issue when you are using phrases like "the ick" and "in case my vagina dries up forever".

Most people's partners have some habits they find mildly irritating, but wouldn't be using phrases like that.

My ex used to (try) and purrr/growl like a cat when he saw me naked sometimes, but he couldn't actually make the purr noise and sounded ridiculous. I told him every time it just sounded daft, he still did it regularly for nine years....

Following for tips on how to stop my husband’s Donald Duck impression.

Say "hey tootles" in a Mickey mouse voice every time you see his penis.

I take your point. My use of “the ick” was to make the post more lighthearted as it’s a silly problem to have.
I do fancy him and I was a bit melodramatic in my OP but I do find child-like behaviour off-putting. So when this noise comes out the mouth of a tall, muscled, tattooed and pierced 37 year old it’s like the aural equivalent of windmilling - not a dealbreaker but probably not something that would increase your physical attraction in the moment

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Early days now dh did some stupid impressions.. A stern face and Don't Ever Do That Again Please works...

Remember Giles and Mary, the couple on Gogglebox?
Look up some snippets of them - the way she says in just the right way when he does something weird 'Giles that is so unattractive...' 😄

Oh gosh there's two of them!! My partner does this too!

Love that you included a clip for us 😂

My DH used to bark when he saw dogs. He doesn't do it now and I remember saying it was 'really annoying' as well as making me jump out my skin sometimes.

Sandwich it. Heavy compliment - minor complaint - Heavy compliment.
All the positives refer to him "you are"
The negative isn't personal "it just happens"

Honey, you know the way you are so hot and I adore you?

There's weird thing happens when you make that noise. It's like it makes all the hottest vanish.

Any chance you could stop doing it and go back to being as sexy as hell?

Doesn't everybody have weird and

My DP does a lot of silly impressions (and he doesn’t exactly look like the sort of man that would do an excellent impersonation of Lumiere, or Polly from Jaws!) just to make me laugh!

I think when you really and truly love someone, you just don’t care about all the silly little noises they make 😂 he’d probably irritate the fuck out of someone else, but I wouldn’t have him any other way.