How to ask someone not to do/say an icky thing?

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Is it ever ok to ask something to not do something that gives you the ick? And how do you word it nicely?

My boyfriend is great but sometimes makes a noise like Tigger from Winnie The Pooh. It’s thankfully not his actual laugh but more a noise of exclamation or seeing something silly. Thankfully it’s never during sex, but I find it really unattractive.

I don’t want to leave him over this but I don’t really want to hear it again in case my vagina dries up forever. I have a habit of being quite direct which can hurt feelings as things can be taken personally - how can I say something in a gentle way?

If you decide you don’t want him anymore soften the blow and send him my way? He sounds just my type, I’ll even overlook the tigger noise 🤭

It's just quite an unpleasant thread to start about someone you presumably love, how do you think he'd feel it he read this? Do you care? 😕

Do people really tiptoe around their male partners like this? You just tell them it’s annoying and to stop doing it surely?

I'm very direct so I'd just say please can you tone down /quit the tigger shit as its annoying asf.

Tell him it reminds you of an ex who did the same thing. Problem solved.

At the start of our relationship my partner used to be quite cheesy sometimes with certain things he’d say, thinking he sounded romantic or whatever but he just sounded like he was reading from a novel. Can’t even think of an example now but at the time I’d just say ‘eurgh bit cheesy’ or words to that effect and he got the hint every time. Think he was trying to be cute/impress me but it was just icky. Now he’s much more ‘normal’ for want of a better word.

Another thread that encapsulates why I hate the phrase "the ick" so much... hearing a grown woman say it is far more offputting than a Tiggerish laugh (which is not even that unusual or weird).

The original meaning of "the ick" was noticing a certain innocuous habit that suddenly turned you off someone completely. That was a sign that the relationship overall wasn't great, and you no longer thought they had enough attractive qualities to outweigh the little annoying habits.

Here OP seems to be saying she's still attracted to her partner, except when he does this laugh, which is a turn-off to her in the moment. Well... I don't think anyone can be expected to turn on their partners 24/7, and I think in a relationship you should feel comfortable enough to occasionally do silly/comic/exaggerated things that amuse you, even if they're not sexually attractive per se.

My ex used to constantly say "you never know your luck in a big city" whenever I asked him if we were doing something/cooking something/going somewhere.

Drove me fucking mad, but I bit my tongue.

Then he started saying "leg it ya sausage" for absolutely no reason, just shouted it out randomly. I'm glad he's an ex.

I know what you mean, in the last few years DH has started sniggering like Muttley. I've asked him why he does it and he doesn't know.

You say ‘X, that’s really unattractive. Please stop making that noise’?

Ummmm wtf? Actually bark?

fraid so...

I had an ex that used to say 'All the fun of the fair' . And wave at drivers with the same car. Where do they get this crap from?

This made me laugh