Upset whilst on holiday

[Creamegg18]

So here I am on holiday in a 5 star hotel feeling down. This is our family holiday, something that I needed due to stress/busy with work and home life and wanted some bonding time with the kids.l and partner.

Holiday was thousands where my partner paid a contribution and I paid the most as I earn a little more than him. Hotel gave us a free room upgrade and everything about the hotel is perfect.

The other day my partner’s gym gear (trousers) disappeared from our terrace after he washed it and letting it to dry. As it was windy I mentioned it may have got blown away, we checked with the cleaner with limited English and she said she hadn’t seen it. Partner is insistent that one of the maintenance guys nicked it after he visited due to a fault with the door.

He confronted hotel reception and they said it may have been taken by a fellow guest etc. Partner then says he wants a crime reference from the police if a fellow guest nicked it. That evening, hotel messaged me to say that they think they have the trousers found near the pools. Partner doesn’t believe them and said it was the maintenance guy. He was incensed and couldn’t sleep, missed his next days gym and been in a foul mood and with me because he thinks I’m siding with the hotel and that I said it’s only trousers and not an expensive jewellery or electronic.

This has ruin our holiday and we are not talking. I’m fed up with his general attitude and for me it’s embarrassing as I emailed the hotel months ago for our two rooms to be close together etc and not only have they done that, they also gave us a free room upgrade worth nearly a grand.

Our last holiday he upset me too as I carried two hot drinks, ice cream and cakes etc where I was struggling as drinks were hot and he couldn’t come over from his sun lounger to help me but moaned as I got him the wrong drink. This holiday I paid for as his birthday present.

I don’t think I want another holiday now but I feel for the kids as they are having so much fun and hotel has been great.

The hotel sounds as if they have been great, I don't think a maintenance man would take a pair of trousers, they probably blew off and were picked up by the cleaning staff, probably put in a store room and when he kicked off they had a good look for it. I doubt the police in any country would come out and investigate a pair of trousers even if he did go down that route
Unfortunately with some people you can be in the loveliest places going with everything available to you but they will still find an issue or make an atmosphere over anything given the chance. Some experiences are wasted on some people

You just need to read the threads about wonderful trips ruined by sulky partners.

If you do want to come back to hotel in future, is it worth having a discreet word to apologise, thank them for finding the trousers and leave a nice tip for the staff especially with the upgrade?

Staying for the sake of the children?. That’s no reason at all. Well whose sake are you really staying for because I can tell you it’s not theirs. It’s not easier for you to stay with such a man.

You cannot use them as the glue to bind you and thus man together. How would you feel if your kids ended up with a version of him in their own adult relationships?. You’d feel sick to your stomach.

"I let it go as it was minor and I know he’s not the gentleman type."

Dear God. Is this really the example you want to set for your teenage daughter? Rasie your bar.

That would be the very last holiday he came on, unless he paid everything himself.
Spoilt Brat.

Doesn't his awful behaviour affect the kids too? Adding an unpleasant atmosphere to the holiday.

You'd be creating relief for all of you if you split up. And stop pandering to him. He's a moody brat who knows exactly what he's doing.

Leave him alone. Don't engage. Stop trying so hard.

And yes bin him when you're back home. You sound like a diamond of a person and you deserve better.

Why on earth would anyone want his gym trousers.