and it leave you feeling wholly inadequate?
My dcs love my stbxh's new gf. She's really nice, very successful professionally, financially solvent, bakes great cakes, is sporty, great fun.
I've never met her. I'm very glad she's so nice to my dcs and that they're having a great time.
Except I just feel awful and Hugely inadequate. I can't bake. I've been financially ruined by stbxh who has squandered our money on we don't know what. I don't have a career per se.
This isn't at all about love. I know my dcs love me. It's about making memories. I can't afford to do all the wonderful day trips stbxh takes them on. I just feel like I have nothing to offer them. I am just dull and predictable, barely living from pay cheque to pay cheque
I do feel sorry for the new gf because my ex was a violent, controlling man towards me but she has of course no idea. It won't be long before his mask slips but it's not my place to say or do anything. Nor do I want to.
Anyone else experienced this? That your dcs will just always prefer the more fun, richer parent who has basically found an amazing partner to make up for their broken home experience?