Tinder 🙈

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Not so much relationship s but tinder dating! So I'm a single mum of 4 (im42 he's 40)/ and started chatting to this chap online. From the start he wanted to meet and lets just say have some fun but then meet back up (he said that way you'll want to come and see me again in 2 weeks). Said he was a decent guy etc. Planned to meet but my car broke down and then the second time round the kids dad decided to work instead of having the children So We couldn't meet then either. So we've been being naughty sending videos and pics in between but he accused me of not taking clear pics and videos on purpose. Got funny when I couldn't send pics straight away out yawning on messages etc, even though I work full time and my kids come first. Said it was frustrating etc but kept saying wish you were here calling me cute baby etx. We've been chatting every day for 3 weeks and then suddenly silence. Won't text or reply to my texts but reads them. I was going up to see him a week this Thursday but I'm so confused.

So in the space of 3 weeks you had planned to meet up twice and have sent numerous picts and vids to a stranger you've met on the internet? You need to be very careful. You are placing a lot of trust in a man you don't know. He most definitely will meet you, fuck you and you'll never hear from him again, which is fine if that is something you also want! If it was me, I would stop contacting him and block him on everything. But it depends on what it is you are after.

Being naughty? Come on, if you want to send sexy videos then don't play coy.

Why are you confused that a man who was expecting easy sex didn't get it and has started ignoring you?

Sounds like he's enjoyed your videos/photos. I hope you face is not visible in these. I hope he's reciprocated and that you've enjoyed these.
Sounds like he was looking for a good time and a quick meet up. Now that 3 weeks have passed, through no fault of yours, he's decided to concentrate on easier targets so just move on.

That's the thing he said he was okay with meeting up in 2 weeks time. No don't was careful and never put my face in there or told him anything personal :( He even said himself maybe it wouldn't be just sex.Now I just feel stupid

No decent man has to tell you he is decent. For me that is the first red flag.
second red flag is you seem unaware of the culture of men these days.
The reason he wants you to disclose yourself fully is so he can sell it online, or blackmail you. This will end in tears. Sorry.

Might sound harsh but you're old enough to figure this out. The photos/videos were wank fodder whilst he waited for sex. That didn't happen in the time frame he wanted so he's on to the next one. Men like that have 2 or 3 women on the go and they will see the one who offers the easiest shag. You are nothing special to a guy like this. I would avoid these scenarios unless you're comfortable with being discarded as soon as something better comes along.

Thanks. It's so frustrating he was like stay over you'll be warm and cozy with me I'll cook for.you are etc. He actually sounded a nice guy

Warm and cozy 🤮

Said he was a decent guy etc.

Well, that's it then. All the proof you need. 🙄

For the sake of your kids, raise your standards and make better choices. This man is an absolute creep, and literally anyone should be able to see this.

I know a great guy too, he’s also a Nigerian Prince. I know he is coz he told me.

OP you’re going to need to get cynical before you go back in.

You've been very naive here.

You're going to need to wise up to online date.

He's anything but a nice guy.

Believe me I won't be doing online dating at all. This has completely put me off and I've deleted tinder. I was just too gullible and thought that he actually liked me

Anyone that sent a yawning message to me wouldn't be getting another one.

Lucky escape I think.

Don't give up , but don't do videos or pics because you've no idea were they will end up.
Meet in public places till you get the measure of someone.
Going to some randoms place you've messaged online could be very dangerous.
Good luck op.

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Sounds like every other man on tinder, if 'fun' is what you're after then it's just superficial attention and maybe a shag and that's it. Finding a man that values and respects you is like a needle in a haystack, you also need boundaries of steel and bags of self worth, and only gradually allow them in. You aren't their entertainment on demand.

Chalk it up to experience, OP. But my advice (after many, many, many years of online dating) is that no ‘nice guy’ exchanges or requests intimate photos/ videos.

Fine if you are in a relationship but if you aren’t even dating, then a gentleman he is not.

Ffs OP, 'sounds like a nice guy'!!! Raise your standards!! He does NOT sound like a 'nice guy' and you need more self respect.

Nice guys don't ask for wank fodder and 'fun nights' (aka 'a quick shag')

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Well he's gone from texting every day saying sorry if he didn't reply for an hour or two he was doing this texting me to say morning rec etc, to now reading my texts but not bothering to reply to me anymore 😐

I mean, it depends what you want, but if you are looking for a potentially serious relationship then I learnt quickly to filter out the ones that did the following:

Asked for intimate photos, or sent me photos of themselves
Started with “sex chat” very early on
Wanted a date either at my house, or theirs.

Any of that nonsense, and they got telt 👋

Op, block this twat and spend some time working on yourself. You shouldn't entertain the attention of grotty, pervy, sub-par men. You and your kids deserve better than that.

Re the texting loads - men like him will say anything if they think they might get some easy sex out of it. Doesn't mean anything significant and texting loads is not an indicator of commitment. It takes seconds to text and you will be one of many. I cat fished a tinder guy once and he literally said exactly the same crap to fake me as he did real me. Word for word

He sounds like a perv.
Sending pics a videos at 2 weeks come on now your old enough to know better.
Get to know people first.
In the nicest way op your a mother of 4 sending dirty pics and videos just stop hes using you.

Yeah I guess I should have seen the situation for what it really is. He wanted to make it a regular thing I guess that speaks for itself not that he was really into me. It's the constant texting me for weeks and then it went to just one word answers and then nothing at all.