Mother in law always moves out the way when I try to take a photo but will happily sit for her other DIL’s photos.

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I don’t know if I’m over thinking this. But when ever I try and take a natural photo of her with the grandkids for example she will always try and move out of the way. She is happily sitting and even posing for the pics my SIL posts on social media with her other grand kids.

I feel like asking what is going on but don’t want to sound like an idiot. I’d understand if it was like this in all picture but it’s just mine.

Sorry it’s my BILs wife so he is the son.

Maybe you took/posted a really unflattering photo of her before?

I hate having my photo taken at any time but I will run a mile before letting my mother take one as she will choose the one I look the very worst in (& she's an awful photographer) every time.

If you're focused on your kids looking cute/funny/gorgeous it's easy not to notice how MIL looks.

How old are your dc and the sil dc? Your oldest can't be more than 3 if I picked it up right you've been with your dh for 4 years?

She is just over one. The other grandchildren are late primary age. The BIL and family are nice enough. They are way too under the mums thumb and she knows all their business so they aren’t people I would tell things to as you know they will tell the parents straight away.

I think there is some competition between the other son and my partner. My partner isn’t really that cottoned on. The sort of thing where we bought something and then 2 months later they bought a more expensive version of the same (caravan). We moved into a bigger home and a few months later they moved into a bigger home the ours. I will say post a pic of us eating some store bought scones and cream tea we’ve put together ….a few days later she has homemade 100s of the same things and posting pics. Bit weird.

to be honest we can suggest and guess all we like... but until you acutally ask her, you will never know.

Absolutely… I’m terrified with confrontation. Just having a wonder really.

She doesn’t like you for some reason. Maybe because you and her son have boundaries and she doesn’t like that.

I think that’s the gist of it. would be way easier if people just come out and tell you they don’t.

Her own dd might be more stern with her mum and tell her to get over it. Maybe she she is under duress with the dd.

Mil never has pics with dh or me. We are fat and ugly though. Bil and his misses are bot thin and attractive. We are like Fiona and Shriek

Edited to add that I'm never allowed in family photos either. Just dh and the kids.

Its her MIL not her mum.

Oh OK. Still dil or her son might be more direct / firm with telling mil to please have the photo.

I thought the sil was miles daughter and I know I feel more comfortable being Frank with own mother than my mil

Maybe you take dreadful photos?

@soupfiend 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'd be the DC's DM, that's who!

You'd get arrested if you smashed my phone!

All because someone took a photo of you with your grandchild?! Unhinged. Truly unhinged.

Look you don’t just pull your phone out and say you are taking a picture

You ask if you can get a picture and then take a pic or not

You talk about boundaries well that works both ways

Even if she lets the other SiL that’s nothing to do with you. I know you are only curious but just stop asking for now.

She badmouths you therefore it cannot be seen that she ‘plays happy families’.

Exactly what I do. We will invite them out with us so they can spend time with their grandchild and it will be a nice spot say in the bluebells or at the Xmas light display. Perfect spot and she will decline. But same things with the other family and they all stood together in the photos. I am curious as to why.

I don’t know but I think she bad mouths me in her own head. Something about me that is a problem. So much so it affects her enjoyment around her own cute little granddaughter.

My little girl is the bees knees and it saddens me to see how other grandparents dote on their grandchildren and you see pictures of them all happy together. It’s her loss but still it’s sad.