D all men become grumpy and unbearable at 55?

[Georgeismydog]

To those of you that are married to a grumpy husband aka Victor Meldrew, help. It is really seriously grinding me down

Yesterday evening he indulged in his new favourite past time, reading planning applications and then constantly moaning about them. All evening he was spouting off about one. He literally did not draw a breath. I'm not even sure he noticed I was in the room.

He is 55 in a few days time and he moans, snores and dozes on repeat.

Is my life ahead?

Yes, it's not age, just personality. My dh is 53 and looks years younger with a fun, "young" outlook and plenty of energy. When my dad was 80 plus, he was still fun, really active, had a youthful attitude to life and definitely not grumpy. I don't think being grumpy is really governed by age. Op, your ds has always been grumpy probably and you don't sound you like him very much which maybe doesn't help.

Nope.
DH is 66 and as fun as hell!!

I guess 55 could be the new 40 if you have your kids at 48/50 which I know isn't unheard of but I would imagine still not the usual.

Because having young dependents is part of the mix for unhappiness levels.

Notwalkingthroughtreacle I agree about hormones and suggested this yrs ago as I take hrt and thought he needed testosterone.GP dismissed it.
He used to be lovely now it's like walking on eggshells.
He had a heart attack and I understand this can change personalities.
UnSurprisingly he would feel better for having a lovely life but a passion killer is an angry grouchy person.
I have said this btw.

Sorry OP but that is so funny - did he randomly looking up planning applications, or was there something specific he was looking for ?

But yes, my husband can be a grumpy old bugger too - politics, football, any kind of sport or news item really . If he goes off on a rant I just go into another room .