Will he get back in touch?

[Passionfruitpunch1]

I was seeing a guy earlier in the year, I like him but am a bit ashamed to say that I messed him about a bit, anyway I ended up blocking him as I think he had a bit of anxious attachment.
Fast forward a few months and I've decided to reach out and just said that I hoped all was ok with him. I didn't ask him any questions but was obviously hoping he might reply. He didn't. That was 2 weeks ago and he hasn't replied and he has read it.
He hasn't blocked me so I'm thinking that's a good sign. Do you think he will get in touch?
Or should I try and reach out again?

Yes I know I f#cked up a bit and it wasn't nice to block him but I've been thinking about him a lot lately.

Leave him alone. You already messed him about “a bit”, blocked him then unblocked and messaged when it suited you- he hasn’t replied, he doesn’t want to speak to you.

I would really suggest doing some work on yourself before dating.

Yes. You should move on. Don't play games with people's hearts.

Doubt he's going to reply now to be honest. Don't message him again either, he obviously doesn't want to reply

Leave the poor guy alone!

"That was 2 weeks ago and he hasn't replied and he has read it."

After this length of time I don't think he will reply.

"He hasn't blocked me so I'm thinking that's a good sign. Do you think he will get in touch?"

He hasn't blocked you because you haven't behaved like a psycho stalking loon yet. It's not a sign of anything good or bad. No I don't think he will get in touch. No I don't think you should contact him again.

Top and bottom of it is, he's moved on and doesn't want to open comms with you again. If he did, he would have replied. You have to find a way to accept/come to terms with that.

You haven't fucked up. You did what was right for you at that time. I hope you learn something about yourself from this.

I'm in the 'leave him alone' gang.

If a woman posted on here saying a guy had been fucking her about and then blocked and unblocked her and messaged a few months later trying to have a conversation everyone would scream not to bother messaging back. If he responds that's great but I really wouldn't message again, respect him and leave him alone, he's read your message so if he wants to reply he will. It's a harsh lesson if you treat someone like crap they might choose to walk away!

Ok but what if he's playing hard to get or something? What if he's testing me to see if I will try again?

He’s not.

Maybe I should apologize for blocking him , that might soften him a bit

Grow up op how old are you? You fucked the guy about, blocked him, then decided you'd try and worm your way back in and he's not interested. People's feelings aren't a game, I doubt he's sat there happy you have messaged him but trying to play hard to get. He hasn't responded meaning he has no desire to chat to you. Move on and maybe next time if you like someone don't fuck them about.

This can’t be real. Op, u anxiously waiting for gcse results on Thursday? If not, then u need to grow up 🙂‍↕️

I'm in my 30s , I just messed up.and now it's looking like it's too late to salvage anything

He thought you fucked him about bc you did and probably now has a partner, or is dating others who he feels don't mess him about.

Did you even apologise for your behaviour?

If someone messed me around then blocked me for a few months, then sent me a ‘hope things are good with you’ message without an apology or explanation or any kind of sensible question, I would also ignore them.

When you were seeing him there was something about him that you didn’t like enough to make you behave disrespectfully towards him. You’re looking back with rose tinted glasses and seeing only the things you liked. He’s still the same person. I doubt you would respect him any more if you persuaded him to give you another chance.

Seriously, but meant kindly...apparently .you messed up, you've been back in touch and he hasn't. He isnt testing you. Leave him be.

Has he not got anxious attachment anymore then?

Someone blocked me for about a year once. I hadn't noticed because I hadn't tried contacting him (as I wasn't interested). He unblocked me and then told me I'd been blocked... Pointless.

@Catoo no I haven't apologized because I was just reaching out to test the waters

First response nails it.

He's rightfully not interested in you any more. He's moved on. Leave him alone. If he wanted to reply to you he would have by now. Men don't play those kind of games. He's not blocked you because he's not arsed about you.

Sounds like the guy has healthy self-respect 🤷‍♀️
Take the hint now and stop embarrassing yourself OP

Sounds like he's got healthy self esteem op. Maybe your the one with the anxious attachment style 🤷🏻‍♀️

I would say after two weeks you’re on a hiding to nothing here. I would also say the not blocking you is more a sign of casual indifference towards you rather than a good sign. Move on OP if he’d been the right guy for you then it wouldn’t have gone this way in the first place.

Who is the one with anxious attachment again...?