Will he get back in touch?

[Passionfruitpunch1]

I was seeing a guy earlier in the year, I like him but am a bit ashamed to say that I messed him about a bit, anyway I ended up blocking him as I think he had a bit of anxious attachment.
Fast forward a few months and I've decided to reach out and just said that I hoped all was ok with him. I didn't ask him any questions but was obviously hoping he might reply. He didn't. That was 2 weeks ago and he hasn't replied and he has read it.
He hasn't blocked me so I'm thinking that's a good sign. Do you think he will get in touch?
Or should I try and reach out again?

Yes I know I f#cked up a bit and it wasn't nice to block him but I've been thinking about him a lot lately.

You weren't interested earlier in the year so why are you so desperate now?

I'm a bit surprised that not one person has said that it could be worth just trying one more time

Then you should have sent him a heartfelt apology and explanation for your behaviour in the first place, not some inane shit to dangle the carrot in front of his nose.

You're playing games and thinking that's what everyone else does too - they don't.

Put yourself in their position. If someone did that to you (or maybe someone else has already), would you be receptive to get some vague "hope things are well with you" message from someone who'd messed you around & you'd not heard from in quite a while, or would you think "get lost"?

Desperation isn't attractive. He probably thinks you're only interested because you've failed to meet anyone better, but he doesn't want to be the backup option.

I think he had a bit of anxious attachment.

Looks like you were wrong there.

You treated him badly.

He doesn't want to be treated badly again.

Therefore, past behaviour being the most accurate predictor of future behaviour, he doesn't want a fucking bar of you, ever again.

Hope that helps.

If he was my friend I'd be telling him to give you a wide berth, you can't just pick up and throw people away when it suits you.

Try again if you must. But don't be surprised if he doesn't want t to engage. Once bitten.

You didn't like him, what's changed?

Hey everyone.
I've been messing with this guy's head I'm sure he's got an anxious attachment style.

1. Leave him alone
2. Stop using those nonsense internet pop psychology buzz terms.

Maybe he just felt uncertain or anxious because you were messing him about, OP?

Leave him alone. His silence tells you everything you need to know. He's moved on and so should you

What if he doesn’t care? What if he doesn’t want to hear from you again? What if he’s with someone else who isn’t messing him around? Leave. Him. Alone.

When you say you treated him badly and blocked him was that it or did you show respect to explain why you wanted to end things?
I mean, if you didn’t show him respect how can you expect him to want to bother replying to you? A ‘hey how you doing?’ message probably isn’t going to cut it but an apology and explanation may have at least got you a reply.

Probably best to just let him be right now

He's not going to respond because you have too many red flags. You dumped and blocked him over something that you are totally fine with now somehow. If he had anxious attachment, most likely he still has. What's more obvious is you have avoidance attachment- instinctively dump, then change your mind down the line.
Why now? Recently broken up with someone perhaps? Can't be alone maybe? You need to take time out to sort yourself out, as it's all about you still so it looks like you've not achieved any personal growth in the last 6 months.

If he wanted to try again, he would have replied by now. Just leave the man alone and move on. You sound like a teenager who had her heart broken for the first time.

Because its not. You acted like a dick to him, and by contacting him again now you're acting like a dick again.

Leave him alone.

Ok OP. You clearly don't want to see or hear the obvious. So crack on. Contact him again. Spend hours, days, weeks, months, hell, even years, agonising over whether the 20th ignored message you send him might be the one that makes him relent. You know deep in your heart of hearts he's ignoring your message because he wants you back so bad. You know deep in your heart of hearts that he's playing hard to get and you'd absolutely love a man that plays games like that in your life.

Are you using him as a bit of an ego boost or something? You dicked him around and blocked him. But you’re for some reason shocked that he actually wasn’t that bothered, and quite happily carried on with his life. Now your clearly fragile self esteem is damaged as it’s you begging him for contact when he quite frankly doesn’t give a fuck. Do both of yourselves a favour and leave him alone