Negging or just a low opinion of me?

[amoreoamicizia]

I've been talking to someone who is basically a loose acquaintance who is looking for sex etc. rather than a potential relationship.

Anyway, I think he started out quite complimentary towards me ("You're gorgeous", "you look beautiful"- I don't but this is what was said), and somehow became very harsh towards me in the space of a few meetings. The most recent things he has said are that I'm weird and that a very good looking guy I met online who liked me was probably a catfish. I'm sure there's more but that's what comes to mind right now.

The thing is, I'm not so sure this could be characterised as negging because he "sees" a lot of women and doesn't appear to need to adopt a strategy as such.

How do you differentiate between someone negging you and them simply having a low opinion of you?

Oh and even if it were negging; that would make him dysfunctional and nasty and a dickhead and unpleasant and someone can't be normal, well balanced, kind etc.

So why would you want a relationship or even fuck buddy situation with someone like him?

You also seem to be saying he was only offering/interested in a fuck buddy situation .

basically a loose acquaintance who is looking for sex etc. rather than a potential relationship

You also mention he was willing to do stuff with you if he was bored.

This does not work for women in my experience.

At all.

Fuck buddy and fwb situations tend to benefit men and work for men, not women.

I know very very few women who manage them and are happy at the end.

Usually it's when they don't care about the guy, don't have feelings for him, don't see him as potential partner material and - most definitely - don't have him on a pedestal.

They use him to scratch an itch and have their sights set on other men for a relationship. Or they don't want a relationship/it's not feasible due to factors like kids, looking after people etc.

For the most part, I wound never ever recommend a woman get into a fwb/fuck buddy situation.

But even if they did, the dude would need to be a lot nicer and kinder and more polite and respectful than this dude.

Re the cat fish comment, I wouldn't even take that personally.

He could have just been saying that v goodooking people in old who haven't been verified as real yet, could well be cat fishes.

That goes for any profile.

He sounds generally a bit nasty though.

And he's only looking for sex, which it sounds like you're not the type to handle well. Like most women in my experience.

Why on earth would you put up with this? Utterly ridiculous to allow someone to treat you like this and then say he is lovely. He is clearly an arsehole

He’s trying to lower your self esteem because he knows he’s not good enough for you, and by making you feel bad now you’ll be grateful when he ‘picks’ you.

Remember, penis is cheap and plentiful, and you don’t ever, ever, need to go out with someone who wants to put you down. Only date people who can make you feel great. He's not one of them. Move on.

penis is cheap and plentiful

This

Stiff cock is the most available, over supplied material on this planet. A woman who's willing to have no strings sex could get it - and from attractive men - night and day for years. There are young, good looking men all over old and hook up sites and swinging sites, willing to have sex with a wide range of women (age and looks etc wise). It's competitive. What they are bringing to the table is cheap, in fact it's worthless.

This guy is not even offering a relationship.

He's only offering sex.

There are sooooo many men who'd be happy to take no strings sex outside a relationship that you don't have to settle for a belittling, rude, off hand, unpleasant man for it. You can pick and choose.

If the guy's not pleasant and respectful and kind, you don't have to touch him.

Men looking for no strings sex are abundant.

If he wasn't just saying that cat fishes are common on old; the only reason he'd be saying that the other guy you were in co tact with was one, was to try to cut down your options. "Oh he's not real" cause he knows women willing to have no strings sex have options and can pick and choose. And he may not be top dog or even in consideration of you hook up with a hotter guy for it

I think you should ask your work to provide you with a work only phone.

Just sounds like a stupid man to me to be honest. Lots of them about.

I would occasionally get someone approach me at a bust stop or something like that where the person opened with a friendly hello and some rubbish like you're this or that, and then when I wasn't interested it turn into you bitch this, that... complete uturn on the friendliness at any sign of a polite non commital response to their come ons.

Some men just turn on a dime into nasty people when you're not absolutely adoring and lapping up their slightest attentions.

You have on your hands a man with an ego who's not afraid to take out its slightest bruising on a woman they supposedly like. You should move on immediately.

Also "How do you differentiate between someone negging you and them simply having a low opinion of you?"

I don't.

Most people don't. They are not worth your time if they sit there insulting you. Who knows or cares what the nonsense reasoning in their head is.