Wtf am I doing!

[JaneFrances]

My husband said he only married me because all his mates were getting married and he wanted the same and he wanted kids. Not in the beginning of course. He cheated with a family friend's student daughter (6 month relationship) a woman at work (ONS) kissed a woman from the pub and then a 4 year affair with a family friend when she got divorced. She got pregnant by someone else and lost it. He still carried on with her. He was outraged she did that when he'd given everything up for him. He pissed around with her for years afterwards but she wouldn't allow him to move in. I put his belongings in bin liners when I found out. I allowed him back for the kids. They're adults now but the H is useful for gardening and house maintenance. I bought him out when he left but now he's got another claim on the house.

Is there any hope for a chap like that?

Yes, his big hope that you would put out and make his life easier.

Turn into a decent human, no not much, maybe if he’s in his seventies he could pretend to be because he has not chance of getting his penis satisfied elsewhere. But deep down? No.

You only had him back to prove you had won?

won what, a cheat and a liar. Much better things in life to win!

id get rid, live your life independently without him in it, who wants to be with someone who says they settled and has shagged others numerous times throughout your relationship.

This.

If you are not divorced then he is entitled to a share of the marital assets. Maybe 50%, who knows. Thats up to lawyers/court to decide.

You can't "buy out" a husband with no legal documentation.

Would he be entitled to anything the OP inherits as I read upthread she's just lost her mother and will benefit from her will, I assume?

It's very common in the UK

Fool

After all that your staying with him becomes he does the garden & house
maintenance ?! Oh my lord

i dont even know what you asked? so much wank stain,

You calling him “useful” made me feel sick and sad. Please find a shred of dignity and self respect and get rid of that piece of shit excuse for a husband.

I would probably swop my DH for a good handyman, I'm sure he would do the same with me.

He's not any of those things. He's a massive dickhead.

Get a will drawn up, stating that when you pass, your sons inherit the house. My dad has renewed his will. If I should die in his lifetime, my 2 children get the house. My 2 sisters have been estranged from us for nearly 30 years.

OP you didn't win. What a sad sorry life to lead. God only knows why you would want this man in your house. I'd much rather be alone.

Sorry I thought you had a typo when you wrote chap and assumed you had meant to write cunt.

This.

No. He’s a total prick and you are well rid

There are 8 billion people in the world, all different from you.

🤣🤣🤣 easily done

Intriguing

So you bought him out of the house first time round. Now he's back in, he could get another payout if you choose to bin him?

I'm confused. Why would buying 'moveable items' like furniture give him a claim on the actual sticks and bricks? I could see it if he'd paid for improvements or repairs. Have you spoken to a solicitor about this? Have they told you he has a financial claim on the house based on that?

I can see it if it's the marital home and you never divorced him, but not if there was a divorce settlement and you got the house/bought him out. Were you divorced and you remarried him or have you never been divorced?

Is this the marital home?

Have you sought legal advice on this?

I never divorced him.

I’m say chap 🤷‍♀️

Chap? Yes no idea why you need to ask really,what would you say to a friend?