New boyfriend gone awol- what should I do?!

[WhatIsLife24]

So I’ve been seeing my boyfriend for 4/5 months. I thought it was going really well. We live an hour apart so only see each other once a week but talk everyday even if it’s just a text in the morning and before going to bed. Both got kids so haven’t rushed to meet families etc yet but I’ve spoken to his brothers and friends etc briefly when he’s been on FaceTime to them.
I last saw him on Thursday evening and he last text me at 1pm yesterday (Saturday). But I haven’t heard from him since. I know that’s not very long but as I said we always text when going to bed and when we wake up, he never hasn’t.
My worry is that I’ve been separated for a year now from my ex husband who is completely narcissistic and abusive. He always seem to know what I’m up to and yesterday I saw him outside my friends house when I was leaving. Seems like he wanted me to see him (didn’t say anything to me, just grinned at me from his car). He has already found out my address too. So I feel he’s obviously been watching me. Am I being completely paranoid in thinking he has something to do with my boyfriend disappearing?! The alternative is that I’ve met another narcissist and he’s just ghosted me! But I don’t know how I would know? Other than his phone number I have no way of getting in contact with him unless I go to his house (he lives with his mum who I’ve never met so that seems a bit extreme, particularly if he’s just avoiding me)
so he’s not replied to any texts since 1pm yesterday. And his phone just rings out.
anyone got any advice?!

That's good you've heard from him! Did he give a reason for the delay in comms or did he just reply as if nothing had happened? Does he know you were worried?

Yes he knew I was worried (only because I told him so) and apologised but tbf to him it was mainly me overreacting. I need to calm myself down! Although I still maintain that usually it would be very out of character for him.
He did drink and overslept. Then his mum rushed him to church this morning and he forgot his phone.

That's really good it was all OK and good that you can recognise that your reaction was off on this occasion. I'm not surprised you were on edge given your ex! I hope you can get that side of things resolved and good luck with your new man.

I love Mnet! Murdered by the mafia? Nope, taken to church by his mum!

So glad that he's ok, OP.

Not laughing at you op. As pp said, not surprising that you were on edge - and glad that your new man is different. Onwards and upwards.

I think if your bf is not aware your ex is a psycho he should be informed (I don’t know if he knows or not). I wouldn’t like to not know if a bf had a crazy ex doing the rounds.

haha yes sounds a bit ridiculous put like that! 🤦🏻‍♀️
he does know about my crazy ex, not everything but the gist which includes him following me

In the last 3 months, dc1 has had hos phone pinched by a pickpocket. Dc2 phone died yesterday - stopped charging. And I’ve needed to replace mine as the home button stopped working.

Granted, between us, we’ve been pretty unlucky.

But he might simply have issues with a phone that died…

Your ex on the other side…..
Do you have any idea how he found your new address?

I’m sorry @WhatIsLife24 i missed your last 2 posts and your update.

Glad he was simply taken to church by his mum!!
And that he was quick to contact you too.

OP you need to do something about your ex if he's stalking you. Please contact the National Stalking Helpline and get some advice.
0808 802 0300

@WhatIsLife24

Glad to read your update that you've spoke. To him

For those saying you over reacted about your ex,I had an ex like that.

He actually threatened my driving instructor so I had to find a new one at one point

It only stopped when my now husband came on the scene and is far better built and stronger than the ex.

I did report him a few times because he would know where I was etc but nothing was ever done.
This was years ago mind you

I wished I'd had the availability of cameras and ring doorbells back then.

Get yourself some security.

I’m sorry the police aren’t taking you seriously. Here’s an evidence log template which might help, if you have informal records of what incidents (eg family WhatsApp chats where you’ve discussed things) you’ll be able to backdate with times/dates.

the number posted above can help with tailored advice too x

amibeingstalked.suzylamplugh.org/assets/stalkinglog.pdf