DP email from gay hookup

[Chilliflakey]

What’s the chances it’s innocent?

I found out by accident as he texted me the name Fabguys in error

I know the answer really

Ask to see the email. People do Google random things at times so it's a bit early to call him cheating, gay or bi-curious at this point.

I've worked in a few places that had a disproportionate amount of gay men, due to the sectors I used to work in. I think I have a pretty good gay-dar by now. It's not unusual for me to see men that I would otherwise assume was gay with a female partner. Some of them could be bi-sexual, but I think some just bury their feelings as they want a straight life.

It’s a sex thing, not a gay or straight thing.
I have not got things wrong

“Please get yourself tested for STIs” is always one of the first messages whenever it is implied a man has slept with another man.

@Combattingthemoaners also when a man has been having casual sex with women.

Nahh fab guys is the male site to fab swingers

I signed up to catch my now exh on it (which I did)

you only get emails if you have an account, as soon as you delete account they stop emailing

OP this is very obvious

Yes

At least you didn’t marry him Op.

Oh no, @Lampzade 😃 Thank fuck

It’s totally standard advice on MN read any ‘cheating (hetro) husband’ thread.

Yes

He’s “deleted the email” 🙄

Oh how convenient 🙄🤦‍♀️
You have your answer OP. He's looking to hook up with men.
Well done for ending it and refusing to be gaslit and treated like a mug.

Gay men have more STDs than straight men and straight women and gay women, apart from STDs/STIs that don't thrive in anal mucosa

Evidence?

Most folks when doing risky things like hook ups some do risky sex too hence the partner needs to get checked.

hook ups are already risky regardless if a man or a woman as that means it’s multiple partners.

glad you’ve ended it.

Of course he has! I had one of these, OP. Glad you’ve got rid - it’s the right thing to do. I believed mine (how could I have been so naive!) and married him. Needless to say, I caught him out eventually but by the time I left I was in my forties with a big mortgage and 2 kids.

@CosmicDaisyChain

A simple google search will give you evidence!

Here's a screenshot of the first few websites that come up. It's incredibly well researched and even the most conservative of search will give you the 'evidence' that you are demanding.

But there us no way someone could accidentally send an email instead of do a Google search

If people could maybe stop with the STI stuff, not really helping.

I'm not an idiot

@BananaLambo oh, that’s horrible. At least I’m old and set up myself. Thank you for sharing. I need to stay strong on this though I’m feeling pretty miserable and very foolish

It is a hook-up site for gay men
he wouldn’t get unsolicited e-mails from them.

the first post was for you to be checked but the other post was for the other posters as they finding it offensive for some reason when it’s not.

One day at a time @Chilliflakey