My husband maintains that he changes the dishcloth every evening

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And there’s no bloody way he does this at all. I find it stinking after a couple of days and change it. I’ve never seen him change it yet he’s convinced this is one of the many amazing things he does for our Home!

What does your partner think they do that actually they don’t?

Just me?? ☺️

Yes, just you. That's gaslighting

Have you asked him where he's put all the dirty ones?

He really thinks he is tidy! All the rest of us are er…

Oh to wash. He is king of laundry. But he’s invented this notion that he has a system AND HE DOESNT 😤😤

Hide all the clean ones and see how long it takes for him to notice.

Ha ha! I never thought of that. I did it thus morning. It’s GREEN. I bet it’ll still be there tomorrow when the one at the top of the pile is yellow

You change your dishcloth every day!?

People actually have conversations about dishcloths??

Honestly I wish I had such a laid-back life that I had the headspace to think this much about dishcloths.

Well. It was an exchange.

he said “oh yeah I change it every night “

i was

In lying in a hammock.
empty nester.

literally fuck all to do. 🍾

Smelly cloths are nasty. Buy a batch of new ones (microfibre) in bulk from Amazon and ditch the others. Swish in hot water with Zaflora wring out and leave spread out to dry at night. Machine wash as necessary. Then consider why this issue bothers you so much.

I agree they are nasty, but he definitely does not do this job.

I was hoping just to have a laugh and a piss about talking about delusions our partners have about their roles within the house but obviously this is severe gaslighting and domestic abuse and I should LTB straight away.

She thinks she can multitask (she can't), she ends up with multiple little chores that are half completed!

Ex used to do this all the time. Lie about having cleaned something that was blatantly still dirty then tell me I was imagining it /mental etc. It is gaslighting and one of the many reasons he's an ex.

I don’t think he’s lying. He really thinks he does it !

sorry about your ex

My dad would get rid of spiders and the flying daddy long legs. But didn't. As a child he would come and tell me it was safe to re enter the room only to find a hairy insects, exactly where I found them. It's,definitely a thing.

Yes!!! My dh reckons he mops the bathrooms "once or twice a week" I have literally never seen him holding a mop. He says this to justify why her doesn't do it on a sat when cleaning the bathrooms..

lol. So he thought he had? Or was too scared to?

Oh also mine reckons he reads books so he buys non-fiction books about gardening or kayaking or whatever is into at the time. Gets some from Amazon and put them on the shelf and I literally never see him read them.

can I bin them? Nooo

I get you OP, my husband would do just this. My DH lies Every Single Day, or there or thereabouts. He says whatever he thinks is the 'right' or easiest answer to any question I ask, regardless of the truth or even feasibility of what he is claiming.

It is infuriating. Especially as I never tell 'white' lies, I just don't really get the need for them.

Mine believes he cuts the grass weekly, hoovers and mops a couple of times a week, dusts once a week, and does the dishwasher “at least” once a day.

I hid the batteries for the lawnmower and hoover, hid the mop, hid the dishwasher tablets. I’m going to leave it 6 months and then confront him 😅(it will be good natured - he’s great at other things).

it’s interesting you call it lying because I think you’ll have to have the knowledge that what you’re saying is untrue, but he really does believe it’s true.

( Note this is lighthearted just having a laugh, so I’m not going to leave him after 32 years of marriage.)

Love this. I hide clothes pf his don’t like until the coast is clear