Man on the beach. WWYD?

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This is rather bizarre but hear me out!!
Today I met a man in a beach, or rather I met a man and his dog.
His dog was hanging around the area o was in and helping himself to my snacks 😅
His owner, the man was shouting at him
To leave me and my
Snacks alone and said how sorry he was, that the dog was a savage for food and to find him when I'm in our only local pub the next time I'm there and he'll buy me lunch !!
I laughed and told him I'd hold him to it and he headed off!
Now this man was about ten years younger than me ie forty but v handsome and chatty.
I have no intention of finding him but would like to acknowledge him when I see him, which I undoubtedly will.
WWYD here. I'm single now.

Well, I'd be a little torn. Free lunch, but on the other hand the guy hasn't trained his dog properly and that's a red flag for me. Net negative I think.

I'd take him up and n his offer, why not?

Hes feeling bad his dog ate your food and hes going to replace it.

Also why not?

The worst may be you have a drink with him and hes someone you bump into and have a chat with every now and again.
But ...
Go what do you have to lose?

when you see him next.. would just a smile and a friendly greeting not work? you say you're not interested in meeting him.. so why are you worried about what to say to him if you see him again??

sounds like a plot from a book...

Would you walk up and introduce yourself to him if you were me? I was in a swimsuit , sunglasses and hair on top of my head so he may not recognise me which would be embarrassing 🤣

I wouldn't seek him out but if I saw him at the pub I'd say hi, he sounds nice but the age gap would be a no from me, if you were thinking romance. That's just me though!

I guess that's what I was asking... should I seek him out .. not for lunch... but just a friendly hello?
Guess who is out of the game for about twenty years... 🤣😂

Absolutely nothing to lose! If he buys you lunch, and you chat, where's the harm! As for being 10 years younger, who cares! If I was single, I'd be going for the younger man!!!

I would be put off by the suggestion that he's always in the pub (ie likely to be in there whenever you happen to go in!).

you say you are not interested and then you ask if you should seek him out? if you are not interested then why seek him out?

if you are interested, then go to the pub and see if he's there, say hi, remind him you shared lunch with his dog and he owes you a buttie... hey presto!

What I meant was.. I have no interest in seeking him out for lunch! Sorry.
It's a holiday destination and there's one local pub/ restaurant. It's where all the visitors eat, drink, see a live band and
Relax.
That wouldnt put me off judging on it being the only social meeting point in this area!

@topflite

it seems a good way to give getting back in the saddle a go. I'd be interested if I met someone like this. I am NOT even remotely interested in OLD!!

I expect he'll recognise you, men don't tend to forget women they've met in their swimsuits 😉. If he doesn't (I'm face blind, so not much chance of me recognising someone! He'd need to have his dog with him!!) just mention his dog owes you lunch (in a non serious way, obviously!!)

what have you got to lose?!?!

Some of these posts are SO MUMSNET 🙄🙄🙄

Well clearly you need to go to the pub every day until you 'accidentally' bump into him

Was he just going OTT because his dog ate your food.
Or was it a genuine offer.?
If so then why not 😊

The dog was snaffling your food because he wants you to be together. You must see this through,

Well believe me, I'm not very memorable in my swimsuit!
I don't think he was being flirty. I think he was genuinely Embarrassed and wanted to repay the snacks!
Im the one who found him attractive , not him!!

I reckon if he was single he'd have got your phone number. Did you do a cursory check for a wedding ring?

@EatCrow 🤣😂 fate, you say ...

I would let him find you. Nothing for you to do

@LaraThot Sadly not, my neck could not crane that far right 🫣

Sorry but I think he was just saying that in order to replace your snacks. He would have got your number if he genuinely wanted to take you out for dinner.

Of course , you're right !
He wasn't being flirty and my young son was with me so it was just a friendly exchange.
A fleeting moment of wishful thinking for me perhaps!
Thanks everyone😊

To me it does sound a bit flirty. I wouldn’t say something like that to someone in case they got the wrong idea otherwise.

Hmm, think you need to be careful not to look as if you're chasing him. He may have thought that your comment was very flip and not serious.

You may have to indulge in some low key stalking of the frequent " fancy seeing you here again" variety.

@topflite

Stop talking yourself out of it (or letting others!!) Just go and have lunch/coffee/a drink with him. See what happens.

its awkward being too flirty if your young son was there & his dog was snaffling your treats!

worst that'll happen is you'll spend sometime chatting to a seemingly nice man.

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