I am at my wits end. My husband is the nicest person you could imagine and everyone loves him but about six years ago he had a bout of depression and took early retirement from work, since then he has done nothing and I mean nothing. He is still medicated for depression but he uses it as an excuse now. He doesn’t work outside home, he does nothing in it, he spends what he likes because he knows I come behind him making sure there is always money. I lost my mum a year ago and he now uses my grief as his reason for not leaving me- seriously.!!! He just sits and sleeps half the time, he doesn’t go to the dr because he says he’s fine. How can existing be fine? He has everythjng money can buy. Looks after nothing because he hasn’t worked his backside off for it. We have a nice home and life but unless I do it. It’s not done. If I say anything he sulks off to his man cave and I really am at my wits end. He thinks now because I don’t have my support anchor in my mum anymore that I am stuck with this but I really don’t know how much more I can take. We don’t have a sex life, all he does is watch sport on tv and pretends to be husband of the year. I work constantly, have my own health issues way worse than anything he has ever had and every single day I put my big girl pants on and get on with it. I know everyone will tell me to give him an ultimatum or leave but I have tried to in the past and the tears start and I feel so bad then. I can’t say anything to anyone because they don’t believe me, he’s always the best and they all love him and assume I am just an unreasonable madam. I feel stuck, fed up, frustrated and totally used.