STI

[Rainbow1996]

Hi guys,

Im little stuck between my head and heart. Please can someone advice me whilst I wait for my appointment.

Last week Tuesday my husband (and I have been with him since I was 14) penis had some white stuff I thought it was precum (I laughed when I saw it in the morning) however since then his been discharging a lot from the penis, he said to me he hurt himself down there so must be from that, but it only got worse so I called the doctor for him and they said to test for STI. He kept saying no it’s UTI must be. They said they can’t rule it out but because of pus it’s likely to be STI.

last night he called 111 it was on loud speaker as it was getting uncomfortable. He was on speaker the person who called back said oh you saw the gp and he put in the notes you have a new sexual partner, my heart dropped! I’ve been with the guy since I was 14! He instantly denied it to the doctor on the phone. they didn’t give him an appointment.

this morning I booked another appointment for him because at the gp. He said to me the docotor said doesn’t know if it’s UTI or STI but prescribed him doxycycline antibiotics and took a urine test.

i have 2 kids and from the bottom of my heart I have never kissed another guy let alone slept with another guy. My throat has been hurting since Saturday. I did give him a blowjob on Friday night before all this happened.

he said to me the doctor he saw today said it can be from saliva like sharing drinks or cigarettes??!! Like what the duck? Is he for real? I am fuming. I don’t know what to do where to turn! I can’t get a phone consultation til next week at the sexual health clinic 😢.

has he been cheating? His denying it. Laughing about it. He says apparently where he works he drinks from the cups. They share vapes. He works in a garage.

It doesn't sound good does it.

UTIs in men don't cause discharge like you're describing.

Why are you making doctors appointments for him, can't he do that himself. Get yourself tested ASAP and no you can't catch an sti from a cigarette but you know that.

It sounds like an STI. Some areas you can order a testing kit free online, worth checking if that's possible where you are. Or there may be a drop in centre locally.

Ohhhh OP I am so sorry you are in this position. What I will say is I work in healthcare and it is rare for information to be recorded wrong and then confidently shares, as in the phone handler mentioning the new sexual partner. It of course can happen, but I think paired with the symptoms it would confirm it for me. Hopefully you can find out the truth. X

Also the GP wouldn't have given Doxycycline if they thought it was a UTI, that's the antibiotic given for Chlamydia.

I’m so sorry OP, it sounds like he’s been honest with the GP about having a new partner but just lying to you about it. It may be worth having a look online because there are lots of walk in centres for STI testing (at least where I am) and you can also order a kit to do at home and send off x

I'm so sorry, but I think its pretty clear.

Get yourself tested ASAP.

I'm so sorry, but I think its pretty clear.

Get yourself tested ASAP.

I’m so sorry OP. This is not from a medical perspective but I’m pretty confident in saying that you can’t get an STI from sharing a vape, or a cup, or sitting on a public toilet. It’s called a sexually transmitted infection for a reason. And the doctors can tell the difference between that and a uti and would say so. Please do go get tested, don’t let him ruin your health too.

I'd be looking at this as a complete picture. In isolation, no, it doesn't look good, but let's give him the benefit of the doubt.

Working away from home?
Clubs?
Unusual schedules?
Personality changes?
Shifty?
Hiding phone?
New clothes?
Gym?
Aftershave?
Random showers?

I'm married, and I absolutely trust my partner. If I had been away from home (say) and to reassure, asked to see my phone... I'd have no problems at all. To be honest, I'd be feeling more bad my actions made them feel that way.

Ask... if they're shifty and say don't you trust me, you know.

Definitely get tested regardless of whether he gets tested or not. The excuses of he must have caught it from sharing a cup is ridiculous the closest to an STI that can be spread through that is oral herpes/thrush

I am so sorry OP. Can you travel to a Gum clinic that has walk ins available?

I am with PP and it sounds like an STI: https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/chlamydia-in-the-throat#:~:text=Chlamydia%20is%20a%20sexually%20transmitted,Treatment%20is%20typically%20with%20antibiotics.

I am so sorry but I think your H is lying.

Sorry OP but he is lying. He's told medical professionals he's got a new sexual partner and now he's backtracking because you overheard and he's panicking.

Sorry he's your first love but I think it's over. Get down to the GUM clinic asap and then get your ducks in a row to leave as they say.

He can't be trusted any more. He's no longer in love with you. This woman could be anyone but whomever it is has potentially infected you too. Sorry.

Doxycycline is an antibiotic that can be used to treat STI’s. You need to get yourself checked as a priority for your own health. Don’t sleep with your husband again untill he tells you everything.

I'm sorry OP but I agree with pp.
I can't believe his selfishness in putting your health at risk rather than be honest with you.

Have you had vaginal intercourse since you have noticed this?
You can catch STIs from oral sex. I agree with everyone else with regards to you getting yourself tested for an STI.
I recommend no sexual contact with your partner until you have your results back. A GP would never prescribe antibiotics without a test result and a proper consultation. (Think of the NHS cuts).
Another replier has posted that this could be thrush, and it could be, your sore throat from oral sex could be Chlamydia or Thrush. You need to get yourself tested and no sexual contact until results/treatment.

Google home sti checks, they send you bits thinks it's a blood test and mouth swaband you free post them back and get results back relatively quickly for yourself if you can't get an app, don't the local hospital have a gum clinic you could attend?

Thank you all for your reply.

I know I’m stupid. I made them appointments because I needed him to and get checked or he wouldn’t.

today the doctor did test and sent it off to the labs apparently and prescribed him antibiotics because of the level of discomfort he has. Since we realised how bad his Willy is I haven’t even touched him. But before it got bad. We did sleep together and oral sex but before I knew any of this. I don’t have any symptoms down there but my throat does hurt.

All the sexual health clinics in the midlands is by appointment. Walk in is for 16-25 year olds.

how is this my life! My poor 2 children and I know he is not in love with me.

will my children catch anything? Because his point is apparently the doctor people can catch it if they have it in the mouth saliva and cigarettes and sharing drinks. I’m worried sick about my kids.

He doesn’t let me check his phone I don’t even ask. I’m so numb. We have had ups and downs.

I just need to learn to be strong

Please get yourself tested even if you don’t have symptoms. Chlamydia can be asymptomatic in women but can also cause infertility. It’s a simple test you can often take at home.

No op your kids can't catch anything , he's spouting this bullshit about sharing drinks etc as he's clearly been shagging someone else

OF COURSE he’s been cheating! Its was confirmed on the phone. Please don’t delude yourself because you don’t want to believe it. You need to go and get checked and treated now obviously

Sounds like throat gonorrhoea. Go to your own GP and get a swab. You will have your answer pretty quickly.

I did google home kits no where I can pick up from and will take 3-5 days to come.

I know I’m a mug! And i guess il never fully know the truth as his not telling me. However I have an appointment next week to get tested at the sexual health clinic.

it’s just the lies for me, saying the doctors said you can catch it by sharing cups and cigarettes.

thank you all for your reply. And I know on here I don’t get what I need and I will see doctors soon but it gives me some strength to message and read. Thank you