STI

[Rainbow1996]

Hi guys,

Im little stuck between my head and heart. Please can someone advice me whilst I wait for my appointment.

Last week Tuesday my husband (and I have been with him since I was 14) penis had some white stuff I thought it was precum (I laughed when I saw it in the morning) however since then his been discharging a lot from the penis, he said to me he hurt himself down there so must be from that, but it only got worse so I called the doctor for him and they said to test for STI. He kept saying no it’s UTI must be. They said they can’t rule it out but because of pus it’s likely to be STI.

last night he called 111 it was on loud speaker as it was getting uncomfortable. He was on speaker the person who called back said oh you saw the gp and he put in the notes you have a new sexual partner, my heart dropped! I’ve been with the guy since I was 14! He instantly denied it to the doctor on the phone. they didn’t give him an appointment.

this morning I booked another appointment for him because at the gp. He said to me the docotor said doesn’t know if it’s UTI or STI but prescribed him doxycycline antibiotics and took a urine test.

i have 2 kids and from the bottom of my heart I have never kissed another guy let alone slept with another guy. My throat has been hurting since Saturday. I did give him a blowjob on Friday night before all this happened.

he said to me the doctor he saw today said it can be from saliva like sharing drinks or cigarettes??!! Like what the duck? Is he for real? I am fuming. I don’t know what to do where to turn! I can’t get a phone consultation til next week at the sexual health clinic 😢.

has he been cheating? His denying it. Laughing about it. He says apparently where he works he drinks from the cups. They share vapes. He works in a garage.

He is saying he didn’t say he has another sexual partner he says he doesn’t know why the doctor would right that. His willing telling me the doctors are saying it’s sti but slight chance of uti. His such a narcissist it’s unreal. Whoever said he doesn’t love you or isn’t in love you. Your right. I will figure it out on my own with my 2 beautiful children. Thank you ☺️

What's his explanation for telling the gp he's got a new sexual partner?? If I was him and that was wrong I'd be livid. And I'd make an appointment with the gp to have it out with them (and bring you along too, and demand they show you the notes). If he's not doing that, then obviously it's not a mistake, he really did tell the gp that (which let's face it is the very, very likely explanation).

And his dick getting an infection from sharing cups at work? What are they doing there, rubbing their knobs round the tops of the mugs? I think they've misunderstood the what rimming is!

If I was you I'd ask him to leave, because not only has he cheated on you, he's not even got the decency to own up to you. Even worse, he's literally laughing in your face about it.

Get yourself tested asap. Also, despite the rhetoric on MN, he'd be fairly unlucky to have caught an STI from the first new partner he's had. Sorry to say it, but he's quite probably been shagging around for a long time.

ahahaha made me laugh. And you’re right. His explanation is he doesn’t know why they would put that in his notes. I have asked him to leave after he come home this morning with antibiotics. He left but just with his keys. So I don’t know what’s happening haven’t heard from him either. I don’t want to either.

I know this is mean, but he literally has no game. I can not see him shagging or talking to a someone. Has to be a prossii 🙈 it’s always the quiet ones! I’m going to say to him if he messages or calls that I’m making a complaint against the doctor and if he wants to salvage our relationship he needs to sign the email!

he can cheat on me all he wants. I have a daughter to be an example for. I never wanted my kids to come from a broken home but so be it. I seen other people do so well. I’m gonna go all in on him. Hopefully it’ll shit him up to tell me the truth.

And then I think imagine he has the worst case of UTI. He knows when he gets the results I need to be there to hear it and he know I got my own appointment next eeek. If he doesn’t give me his results or let me there. It’s game over. I’m giving him the benefit of the doubt. But asked him to leave for now coz I need space

I KNOW I AM A MUG AN IDIOT STUPID ETC 🥹

i really need to figure it out

You're not a mug or stupid. You're in shock. Take the time you need.

I’ve been with him 14 years. He was my first boyfriend and then we married. I never been with anyone. I always led life with kindness. I just don’t understand what I did to deserve this. It doesn’t feel real. I’m numb it’s like I’m hoping it’s not true and it is a UTI.

last few years in our marriage hasn’t been great. Il be honest. He’s not been so nice to me after I had my baby and mentally has abused me. I just don’t know what I ever did to deserve this. He apologised for being no so nice and we worked it out. Lately I thought it was going great. Our sex life has been amazing 3 times a week sex etc. then this happened and I can’t even look at him

Sorry I haven’t read the entire thread.

Depending on where you are based you should be able to order an STI testing kit online. However, you have symptoms of an infection so you should go to a clinic.

Is there a walk-in sexual health clinic near you? I’m sorry but it does sound like your husband is lying to you. Good luck.

You absolutely do not get STI’s from sharing vapes or cigarettes- your H is lying. He has clearly told the Dr he has a new partner - that will be in his notes, which the GP will be reading from. As a nurse prescriber Doxycycline is not (for me) an antibiotic I would use for a UTI - I would be referring your partner to the GUM clinic for proper testing and treatment options. From memory Doxycycline is used for Chlamydia, pkus his symptoms do not sound like a UTI to me - so I am sorry he is cheating.

You now need to look after yourself and the kids - and do not listen to anyone of his bullshit.

OP you are not stupid or a mug. You should be able to trust your husband and he has betrayed your trust. The fault is ALL his, you haven't done anything wrong.

He has contracted an STI and most probably infected you too. You need to get yourself tested and treated. Obviously you will not be having any sexual contact with him from now on. I hope you won't stay with him and will see a solicitor to work out your next steps. I'm so sorry this has happened to you, please don't stay with him 💐

Exactly this, nitrofurantoin is the usual antibiotic for a UTI

@Rainbow1996 remember it can take gonorrhoea and chlamydia up to two weeks to show in your body after you have been infected, so if you have had sex with your hubby less than two weeks before you do the test and it comes back negative, you can't rely on that result. If you do the test later than two weeks after sex, and it's negative, then you can rely on that result.
Also self test kits don't check for all infections so you may be better going to a GUM clinic

If you are in the Midlands, Birmingham GUM service has walk-ins,

The post about thinking rimming is rubbing their dicks on cups cracked me up 😂. On a more serious note the new sexual partner will only be in his notes as he clearly went to doctors and had been asked has he had any new sexual partners to which he obviously replied yes. It's not something that would just randomly be in the notes

I'm so sorry op, I agree with everyone else in saying it is very likely that he's lying, and there is every chance this is an STI and therefore he has cheated.

I have however come on here to say that Doxycycline is sometimes given for UTI's, as I was given it whist pregnant for a particularly stubborn infection, and they were concerned about my kidneys. I am allergic to penicillin though, so they do have to find alternatives.

Sadly though I doubt it was given for that, but just wanted to put that side into perspective incase that swayed your thinking x

Very alarming to hear you were given Doxycycline in pregnancy: this is an extract from the online British National Formulary (BNF):

You need to click on the image to see the full quote: Doxycycline is a tetracycline antibiotic

My daughter is 22 now so all was OK, things may have changed since then

She does however have scoliosis, I replied to.you and then made that connection. God I hope that didn't.cause this....