Partner calls me lazy

[sarah7681]

My partner recently called me lazy as I don’t walk our dog enough. I have a 2 year old and 7 year old. It’s hard to take him a walk as my two year old won’t go in her stroller and wants lifted constantly or she will take her bike then want lifted and I need to lift her the bike and hold the dog. I admit it is hard and it puts me off taking him out as she will want up constantly and won’t walk! I feel bad for the dog as I know he’s not walked enough but he won’t take him out either 🙃 getting sick of his snarky remarks all the time doesn’t pay me compliments like we live as friends!! I don’t want to split up but I don’t know what else to do as I’ve addressed the friends part before!

Does your partner have broken legs? What's stopping him from taking the dog?

Your partner needs to try walking the dog with the two year old, then come back and tell you what works

Yes to he walks the dog.

But also, parenting! Take the stroller with you and the toddler holds on. When she inevitably wants to be carried, it's in the stroller. "Walk or stroller." Repeat ad infinitum.

can you take the dog on your own or why can’t he take the dog for a walk?

He said he didn’t want the dog 🙃 but he could help out.

Doesn’t work I’ve already tried this. She just screams and gets out the stroller herself

Are they his children? Why doesn’t he look after the 2 yr old either at home or on a walk?

Then she walks. And on and on. And on. "Walk or stroller." Over and over.

Then he'll have to compromise because you currently can't walk the dog with the children. So he can walk the dog.

He can't watch the children while you walk the dog?

Controversial I know, but would letting her walk with reins attached to the buggy/stroller/your free hand work somehow? This is difficult, you have a child, a buggy (sorry stroller, I'm old school!) and a dog to control. Not easy.

So did you alone want the dog and your DP wasn't keen? If it was entirely your wish to have a dog, well I'm afraid you have to look after it. That doesn't excuse the behaviour of your DP, there is no need for him to treat you with contempt like that.

Tell him to piss off.

Yes they are his children. He works doesn’t get home till late on that time I’m taking my toddler to bed at 9 o’clock as she’s not a great sleeper still up twice a night he says I need to get up at 6am to walk him.

Haha I have a few times

Did you get the dog even over his objections?

well then he watches the kids while you take the dog a nice long walk

Strap your dd into the stroller and walk the dog. You have start telling her no.

No of course not we both paid for him

You need to start being consistently firm with your dc. Either walk or in the stroller. If she kicks off, then you stop in your tracks and wait until she does one or the other. It might mean an awful lot of standing around to start with, but you need to train her to do as she is told.

She does as she is told!! She doesn’t like in buggy as she’s getting to big for it but also doesn’t like walking sometimes.

Your poor dog.

Do you work? If not, and he didn't want the dog, I kind of see his point. What was the agreement that was discussed when you got the dog? If you persuaded him by saying 'but I will walk it every day' then I also see his point. Particularly as he works long hours by the sound of it. A dog is a massive responsibility, and you can't just ignore that responsibility if it's inconvenient or once you have children.

🤣🤣🤣🤣 say why don't you get up before work and walk him? 🤷🏼‍♀️LOL get up at 6am and walk him 🤣🤣🤣 like being a stay at home mum is easy! My ex used to make remarks and digs about me not working and apparently just sitting on my ass most of the day he didn't have a clue! (Single mum of 4 by the way! Ages 14,11,8 and 1) we have to keep the house tidy, washing, cooking and school runs, appointments, bathing the kids the list is bloody endless! I would literally say to your partner how about you get up extra early before work so you have time to take the dog for a walk 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

Poor dog? The dog gets walked as he has a dog walker 😉

Honesty thank you!! I feel bad for being a stay at home mum but I love it too! But it’s sooo much hard work especially when both are so young all they do is fight and need attention constantly which is understandable but when do we get a break? We don’t 😂 I think some folk think it’s easy and all we do is sit about all day doing nothing.