Partner calls me lazy

[sarah7681]

My partner recently called me lazy as I don’t walk our dog enough. I have a 2 year old and 7 year old. It’s hard to take him a walk as my two year old won’t go in her stroller and wants lifted constantly or she will take her bike then want lifted and I need to lift her the bike and hold the dog. I admit it is hard and it puts me off taking him out as she will want up constantly and won’t walk! I feel bad for the dog as I know he’s not walked enough but he won’t take him out either 🙃 getting sick of his snarky remarks all the time doesn’t pay me compliments like we live as friends!! I don’t want to split up but I don’t know what else to do as I’ve addressed the friends part before!

Honestly I'd rather work full time sometimes, don't get me wrong I love my children but it's a 24/7 thing 🤣 we don't get an hour break. We have soo many things we have to do even when they nap or when they are sleeping we are still buzzing round the house 🤣 the jobs never blooming end 😆

Well you did say you feel sorry for the dog as it doesn't get walked enough. It is extremely annoying trying to walk with kids at this age but bottom line is the dog needs to get out. Even if it's half an hour throwing a ball for him somewhere? I'm a SAHM with two dogs and I've always walked them daily even when it's a pain in the butt, I wish my DH would do it more often but the dogs come before me making that point.

😂 honestly I have friends that have went back to work as it’s easier than staying at home! It’s a hard job bringing kids up we chose to do it but we shouldn’t feel as if we need to do it alone or get penolised for it! Maybe adding a dog to the mix was a bad choice but I love him dearly and he certainly gets the attention he needs

Can you try using a carrier with your daughter? I'm in a similar situation a few days a week, but where I live there's no pavements so buggies aren't really an option. I try to walk the whole loop - an hour or so - sometimes using quite a lot of treat bribery. But if that fails I use a carrier to take her weight on my hip. If she goes on my back she'll fall asleep!

I’ve tired this but she won’t go in and she’s too heavy to lift the full walk. She does moan a lot but I think I just need to let it go and walk along and maybe she will follow. Be better once she is in nursery

Get rid of the dog

Yes I did say I feel sorry for him but he does get walked I just feel I sometimes don’t give him enough attention as I would if the kids weren’t in the house. We play with him out the back all day and so does my older kid

I have too lol. I've got 3 boys and a girl, my girl is the 1 year old. They are extremely demanding and hard work and the mess is unreal some days. It is hard and I will have you right there we don't have kids to do it alone and be penalised id things aren't done how they're 'supposed' to be. Does make me angry as I never expected to be a single mum of 4 I didn't think when I was a young girl oh my dream in life was to bring up kids alone yet here I am 🤷🏼‍♀️🤣 it is what it is and is life. Your partner is wrong though calling you lazy that's not fair I'd like to see him do what you do on a daily basis then ask you to get up at 6am to walk the dog 🤣

Getting rid of the dog isn’t an option he’s part of the family 👍

If he has a dog Walker I don’t understand the issue?

I don’t have a dog because I don’t have time for a dog, but if I did then I would either make time to walk him or pay a dog Walker.

I am struggling to find sympathy for you, you chose to get the dog!

1 - partner walks the dog
2 - partner watches kids while you walk the dog
3 - you strap toddler in and ignore the whining while you walk the dog.

personally I would prefer 2 out of those options as you then get a bit of alone time to decompress and can walk at a decent pace to get a bit of cardio work out in.

Here are your options:

Take turns to walk the dog. He does morning and you do evening.

Hire a dog walker

He walks the dog twice a day

You walk the dog separately to your children

So what’s his problem then?

He’s not if you’re not walking him.

Neither of you are BU not to want to walk a dog, you’re both BU to have a dog you don’t want to walk.

Completely agree with @Mirabai
I feel sorry for the dog, as you have also said your partner didn't want a dog in the first place.