Can your partner throw you out?

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Does anyone know - if you are unmarried and been living together for 20+ years in a house owned by your partner - if things become acrimonious - and you have a 15 year old - can your partner throw you out??

Yes. Sorry

Yes. So very sorry.

yes of course, if it is their house

Yes, that's why marriage is more about legally protecting yourself than a moment at an altar.

Yea they can.

Yes,you are not married or jointly own the property.Is the child his?You can clam CSA if so.Is this going to happen?

Yes .. you have no rights

Is this your situation? What is your personal income and savings situation like? You need to be looking for something else now, before it happens, if you think it is likely

Yes. It very well illustrates the importance of marriage.

Yes. There are no mitigating circumstances when you cohabit.

Let’s go down the same way to referring to it as you have, and assume this is just a rhetorical question. Yes they can. So I would suggest you get married to stop them doing this, or at least at the very minimum get the house out in both your names

It's our son. Things have been going wrong for a long long time. I do own my own property that I rent out but it's not here and I wouldn't want to live here - so I am looking at remortgaging etc. so what would happen to our son?

Yes they can, it’s their house. You don’t even have rights as a tenant.

Long term, in some circumstances you can make a claim to get a portion of the equity if you have paid a substantial amount towards the house. It’s expensive and difficult, but possible. But that doesn’t stop them being able to tell you to leave in the short term.

That depends. Does your son want to stay? Or leave with you?

Im not bothered about getting money or equity or anything like that. Just worried I can be thrown out! Before I have anything sorted.

Well he would either stay in the house with his dad or come with you wherever you house yourself. This is why women should get married if they are financially vulnerable before having kids.

so what would happen to our son?

Your son can live in his other parent's house.

While you can get thrown out both parents have a legal responsibility to ensure their child is housed.

He decides who he wants to live with.

You're generally not eligible for social housing if you have a home of your own, so you would need to rent privately, for which owning a house would make it significantly easier in terms of passing affordability checks.

You arent entitled to money or Equity, So thats good

Yes, is you're not on the deeds or mortgage then you'd legally have no right to stay.

Is he saying your DS has to leave too, or just you?

It's complicated. He's neurodiverse and very attached to his home/environment. Also his dad is a heavy drinker and he wants to look after him. I've broached the subject before and he's said can't you wait til my GCSEs are over. It would be better all round if I had somewhere nearby and probably he lives between both places.

Er, of course. It’s not your house, no lease, nothing.

You’re a guest. Not sure DP can throw his child out - you have to house DC till they’re 18 by law.

As long as you agree to go, after so long and with a DC, one would hope he'd be decent enough to give you notice so that you can make arrangements.
Time to start looking and planning for what you want, whether it's a new place or giving notice on your rented home.
Discuss with your exP what will happen with your son. Ask your son what option he prefers. Is your house in the same country? If not you can't just leave unless your exP gives permission.

I’m sorry you’re having a bad day or possibly a bad life. You need to get professional help rather than taking it out on MN.

You can’t leave your son with a drunk. SS would kick off- the school will tell them.