Finding a new partner in your 50s. Can this work?

[NotAgainWilson]

He: very sporty, into cycling (long distance racing), hiking, running, etc. Into gardening, early retired therefore well off. Widower with grown up children.

You: Due to a birth defect useless at sports, not that well off l but living a good life. Garden looks like a rewilding project. Single mum with a child at uni.

Living one hour away. Both home owners.

Similar values, sense of humor, and definitely attracted to each other.

Would this work? In younger times I would say no, but with the extremely reduced dating pool for this age range, is there a chance?

@NotAgainWilson you gave it a chance, it didn't work out. As you say, it might have been something else that triggered him pulling away, to do with his own emotions and not so much to do with the lifestyle incompatibility. If he wants someone to live the same life as him, but be female, there will be someone, but they won't be you, so he has missed out to that extent.

Onwards and upwards, OP, hard but the best way to live.

Thank you, you’re right, that makes me feel better.

He said I was clever, funny, beautiful and he finds me very very attractive but he doesn’t feel I am the right person for him for the long term… Honestly, we are almost 60! What kind of long term do we have left?!?!

It is so bad is starting to look funny! 🤣

I respect his decision though, hear what he says and bow out.

Definitely give it a go it sounds much like me and my DP!
Him: 7 yrs older than me, goes to gym, football, tennis, swim 2-3 times per week, neat freak, early to bed and early riser, two almost grown up kids
Me: not particularly sporty, love crafts, sewing, painting, DIY, interior design, go to bed and get up late, two much younger kids, not the tidiest (I blame the multitude of fabrics and sewing stuff!)
On paper we don’t have anything in common but we have undeniable chemistry, great sex life and love spending time together. We also both own our own homes and although we only live around 20 mins away from each other, we only spend nights together when my kids are at their dad’s which is usually every other weekend. We sometimes see each other in between when the kids are at school.
Been together 5 years and works really well. Always getting people asking when we’re planning to move in together or get married but it’s a big fat nope right now as I love things the way they are.
It can absolutely work out if you get on well with each other!

So sorry I didn’t read the entire thread I just read the first page and thought yes that sounds like me and DP I’ll share my story of positivity!!
Definitely keep an open mind in future though. Like I said, we don’t have anything in common but if I’m staying at his when he’s playing tennis or at the gym, I have a wander around the lovely little shops near the tennis club or sit by the lake with a coffee and a book. I have plenty of time to myself to enjoy my own hobbies and not spending too much time together means I still always look forward to seeing him and it makes the time we do spend together more special.
For perspective, I’m in my early 40s and he’s almost 50

Thank you @pliplop, I’ll keep it in mind, OLD at this age seems to have a lot of men in Lycra (or holding fish but I am so not going there!)

Hope so, I'm recently 50 and also recently dumped. Will be gutted if that's it for me

Hold your standards high despite the pool being smaller!

But the reasons you give, I would definitely give it a go!

Oh, the standards were quite high. That’s why I am a bit heartbroken, he was brilliant in so many aspects.