Husband has fucked up AGAIN.

[AnnBoo]

AIBU for wanting to move to a new hotel after my husband fucked up and stumbled in at sunrise with no apology?

I'm currently away with my husband and kids, as well as his brother and their family. Holiday has been lovely so far up until last night...

After dinner yesterday, once my kids and niece were in bed and asleep my husband suggested going out for some drinks. I offered to stay home with the kids as I was quite tired. I expect them home between 11 and 12 as my sister-in-law suggested.

at 1am they were all still out and failing to answer my messages so I decided to go to bed.

Woke up at 5:30 AM by the sound of the door slamming as they all stumbled in. I was too pissed to even say anything.

This morning my BIL and SIL have apologised profusely and told me that all of their phones died. Also found out that my husband couldn't stop himself from getting absolutely shitfaced, which meant that instead of driving the hire car back (he's the only one insured on the car) they all had to walk home a nearly 2 hour journey in the middle of the night.

Husband hasn't even addressed the situation, let alone apologized!

I've found another hotel local to ours for a decent price and I'm considering staying there for the rest of the trip. AIBU?

God help you married to such a loser.
Poor children.

5:30 and no contact is not great but unless this is a repeat problem then let it go.

Keep walking.

Have you booked the other hotel yet?

I'm normally #TeamWife. And I am in this case. Just one question, as the only person who is ever insured on foreign holidays because everyone else is wimpy/scared/'can't' drive abroad/wants to drink etc. Is he the only one insured for him or for everyone else?

Retracing his steps is a good idea. But if everyone is getting the benefit of him driving 90% of the time, everyone who was a drunk moron should chip in. You weren't so... but all DH's and my money is shared so what comes out of his pocket, comes out of mine.

Make him a meal of burgers and chips.
Swimming in grease.
Make sure it’s nice & lukewarm.
And give him a big glass of room temperature milk.
And then sit across the table from him and smile while he tries to choke it down. Tell him it’s your “special hangover meal” and insist he eat it all.
Say “I love you honey,” cheerily as he gags.

Go and enjoy your holiday in the other hotel!

Having seen your updates and got a bit of an idea about the backstory, he's an arsehole and yanbu.
It's not just the being silly, losing keys, disappearing with no phone. Its the fact it leaves you constantly having to be the adult, the boring one who gets the family all sorted.
And yeah do not pay a share towards the keys. He caused the problem so he can fix it.

Given they all walked back,has he abandoned the hire car too? Presumably he'll enjoy the walk back retrieve it

Missed your update,sorry. I'd be sending him off to find the missing keys...on foot.

The 4 of you??
I didn’t realise that you were part of the outing last night….

But then, really, he, himself, should be responsible for replacing the key. Which then means you’ll be paying for half of that anyway 😢

You sound like a lot of fun OP.
Can we go on holiday together and no drink or go out , maybe stay in and knit a jumper.

How on earth did he rationalise that suggestion?!

@Samedaysameshit

I think that's a horrible thing to say to the Op !
she didn't want to go out in the evening, so what !

and it's very clear from the Op's other post on her husband that he cannot hold his drink / be responsible when he does go out drinking
( even if it is only every 4 months ? )

as there are not many fathers that go out and return in the early hours, presumably drunk, and eat all the children's Easter eggs ! hours before the children are due to wake and receive them, and not even to replace them !
(it was down to a friend who popped round with replacements.)

and now to be in such a state that he has lost the rental car keys, and to expect her to pay towards their replacement !

So by your reckoning it would've been a banging idea to take 3 young kids on a piss up until 5.30am? Hats off, you certainly know how to have fun. How's your relationship with social services?

What a nasty, snarky comment. Feel proud of yourself do you?

And what?
Does it make you a superior person if you enjoy going out? More empathetic, nice to be around maybe?
And someone who doesn’t enjoy going out is the old boring spinster with a cat who like to knit, is that it?

What a boring life you must live if you can’t comprehend people have different interests and maybe, shock horror, don’t enjoy getting wasted and the hungover that follows.

Those children need one decent parent, they have a useless waster of a father.

Sounds vile. It's so hard to suggest what to do because your lives are so entwined. I guess it completely depends on his actions afterwards. Is he remorseful? Has done anything to make amends? Does he promise change? Has he changed? Demonstrated responsibility (I know the second update doesn't sound promising) I think these are the only ways you can forgive and move on x