New ish relationship….not serious but exclusive (I think). Really struggling to find time to spend together, I have a disabled teen who is 4 weeks in to 12 week summer break. He works full time and does a couple small jobs on the side, he has 2 almost adult dc (not living with him). On Sundays I have a a day without my dc. I have quite a few friends and a few hobbies which are hard to peruse when dc is off.
DP keeps saying he wants to do this that and the other with me but he’s never free for a full day (either working or spending time with his dc). He often has something going on Sunday for half the day and expects me to hang around and meet up with him or drive to his in the afternoon for a couple hours. This means I can’t really go out for the day to meet friends or do a hobby. He’s then often running late so we end up seeing each other for 2 hours before I need to collect my dc. He has said his work pattern will change but he keeps picking up more weekend work meaning he only has one Sunday a month free at the most.
So this weekend he’s busy sat, busy sun morning but wants me to meet him around 2pm Sunday. AIBU to say ‘no’ because I want to go out for the day and not hang around waiting for him to be available?
At the moment I’m driving to his one evening a week (the only week night he’s not working) and seeing him on a Sunday once a month. I’m not too bothered about this, though I will likely get bored with it (as we are not actually going out or doing anything together). I’m just a bit annoyed that he keeps saying about going to certain places and doing things together but he doesn’t actually have any time to do these things and doesn’t seem to me making time?
I am happy just seeing someone once a week but ideally I would like to spend long enough to actually go somewhere and do something rather than hanging out at his (he’s always tired).
sorry for rambling 🤣
Do I just make plans to do my own thing Sunday and tell him I’m busy?