Do I win the prize for the least romantic proposal?

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Last night.

'Shall we have a look at what Money Saving Expert says about the advantages of getting married?

Might be a good idea?'

I'm not sure how I'm feeling right now.

@IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos Are you still together?

Me: After a year of dating: "Where do you see this relationship going?"
Him: "Mmm, now that you mention it, I see it going toward marriage."

We are celebrating our 40th anniversary this summer.

Walking home from the wedding of friends, sitting by the river on a warm summer evening: Him: 'I guess we could it too' Me: 'Oh OK then'
Marriage was few months later and we were together for 20 years

My husband walked down the stairs into the open plan living room and said.

’If you want to get married then we can’.

With no ring.

But, whilst he’s not got a romantic bone in his body, he is kind, honest, loyal, hardworking and I know he absolutely loves me to pieces, so I said ‘great’.

Very much so. Happily married for nearly a decade. Made me laugh, he came back, gave me a kiss and said "so....yes or no??" Very him. Very us.

He's not "conventionally" romantic, but romance is subjective. He's a very good husband.

I love everything on here 🤗

Um ... Could anyone advise ... How do you actually ... Get married ?

For context, we're 61 & 73, been together 30 years.

Am I actually ... Considering this??? 😲

FFS now I'm crying.

I got 'wanna change your name.' Been married almost 25 years 😆

We were on holiday abroad, & got chatting to an older man.
After a while, he said that his wife of 50 years had recently died.
After saying all the right things to him, & sharing a few rounds, he asked us if we were married.
"I suppose it's inevitable" said my now DH.

Very funny thread.

We didn't have a proposal and couldn't muster up the enthusiasm to choose rings, so went without. I was 4 months pregnant and wore an empire-line 14.99 mini dress from Tkmaxx.
The husband is an Ex now but I still love Tkmaxx. Some things are forever enduring 😁

Because of your ages make sure you have a solid prenup to protect your assets. Also make sure that your will recognises any children you might have independent to your (hopefully) soon to be dh.
Do it anyway you want op. Because your aren't kids you don't have to worry about family expectations, you can get married your own way.
Imo the proposal shouldn't really be overshadowed by the big, romantic gesture and (again, hopefully) nice big ring 😉, it's a big step and a serious decision.

We'd been to a wedding the night before. We were so hungover that we couldn't even make it downstairs for breakfast. Sat on the floor drinking rubbish tea made with hotel powdered milk when he suddenly said that whilst the bride had looked nice he thought I'd "probably" look better when we got married....
21 year anniversary in a weeks time!
The "probably" still makes me laugh!

Sounds perfect to me, I had over the top romance it makes me cringe and gives me the ick

Was it an actual proposal? My partner and talked loosely about the benefits of getting married now and again (we’d been together a long time), but he did later surprise me with a romantic proposal and a ring.

Six weeks in and watching TV on his ugly rental sofa and I can't remember the conversation but he looks at me and goes 'but you will marry me won't you'? I was like 'is this it'? (in my head).
Thing is we had booked a weekend in Rome for a month later and he had originally planned to propose there! Now that would have been romantic!

Weddings are romantic but marriage is really quite a practical arrangement

Couldn’t agree more

I think that sounds lovely OP- especially as you have been together so long! Do tell us if you say yes. :)

My friend had what her DH now thinks was severely unromantic, but she (and I!) thought was lovely..... they had both had food poisoning and she was just returning to bed all sweaty and pale after a vomiting bout when he mustered up a weak 'Will you marry me?'

It's so funny because he goes all red when she tells the story but everyone else loves it!

I've never been asked! Been married for a long time. He asked my father - forgot to ask me!

My proposal went like this :

me having been sick all morning due to my pregnancy on the morning of my 28th birthday gets back into bed.

him: can you wait up here for a bit while I go and 👀 make breakfast

me: ok you sure you don't want help?

him: no stay here.

Finally I was allowed down I looked like hot garbage. Smelt of sick and had his grubby dressing gown on. Didn't realise what was happening so sat on the sofa, when he proposed we were eye level to each other because I was still sitting 🤣

I only jest, it was lovely. I would hate it to be public I'm very socially awkward with things like that.

OP that is almost exactly the proposal I had!

He said 'we should look at the tax situation if we got married '

He now says it wasn't intended as a proposal. However within half an hour I'd told my parents and the following day we had decided on a date and shortlisted venues.

14 years ago now and still going strong.

That would really appeal to me. I’m not a very romantic person and someone who takes financial
matters seriously is a big plus.

We did actually go on a date and then it was just such a truly lovely time exploring and experiencing the transition from friends to lovers. We married a year after that text message. I was 55 and she was 50. It took us that long to find each other after many other relationships, each important but not The One. She was loyal, kind, strong, funny, loving, fun to be with. The best. We had 9 years together. Four years ago she died of ovarian cancer and I hope I never feel such grief again.

How to get married

my DH and I had a registry office wedding just with close family (around 30 people), meal at a pub then back to our house for champagne and chilling. Was a great relaxed day.

Thankyou, @TwoBlueFish

I am sorry for your loss 💐.
It's a beautiful story and I hope that you have many happy memories to help you through your grief.

We had a civil partnership ceremony last year, after being together for 38 years. He said, 'It would make sense if we got married' and we talked about financial issues if one of us suddenly dropped dead and reckoned it made sense to be 'legal', as they used to call it. Had the lowest-key possible ceremony - two witnesses, no guests, no dressing up etc - and then we all went for a pizza. It was all very cheerful and we felt like a couple of kids.