What do you and DP do at home after dinner if not watch TV ?

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So we don't have a TV and don't really want one.
I have a stressful intense job, usually WFH but not always. By the time I've cooked and we've eaten dinner together more often than not I'm knackered and not really up for more conversation. I don't ignore my DH and am happy to converse if he wants to but I don't have the energy usually to start a scintillating conversation myself. We will talk over dinner, not sit in silence. Afterwards I'm rarely up for more than watching Netflix or reading something on my own laptop. We don't like the same shows.
I can see it is a bit depressing to both be on your separate devices of an evening, DH doesn't like it, but what do couples do if not watch TV together ? I mean before bed. I reckon most just watch telly but I'm getting desperate for other ideas which are not mentally exhausting as I'm that already !
thanks.

We do watch TV after dinner but we don’t just watch Netflix etc, we’ll watch YouTube channels with videos about hobbies we like. We love watching videos of people making beautiful scale models and dioramas.

We read or play board games, when we bought our house we designated one room as our gaming room for board games and it’s worth it.

We usually take the dog for a walk and maybe end up at a bar en route

Should have said there’s lots of light board games now that are quick to play and fun as 45 min strategic games are the opposite of what you’d want when tired.

Read books

Same - YouTube has a lot of interesting content (hobby type stuff as you mentioned and other stuff like travel vlogs) so it's a good way of finding 'compromise' videos to watch.

We usually walk the dog, have a Wordle/Spotle competition to see who can get the answer first, chat about the news, and then I read while he watches You Tube DIY videos.

Thanks for the ideas so far. I will look at light board games.. The other thing is he doesn't drink and hates pubs (I do drink and don't hate pubs) so no impromptu visits there. We do have a dog but walks are very short now due to her health.

Watch tv or go for a walk. Occasionally put on music but that's only usually on Fridays after watching top of the pops 2 (and a drink)

Oh and choir once a week

We go for a walk- usually with dogs but in the past just on our own. Sometimes we go for a drive and get buns or an ice cream.

We watch tv or DH watches tv and I read. I don’t have the social energy after a day at work to then spend the evening making conversation and I also I like tv

Kids, so if its something outside the house it’s only one of us.

Read, play computer games, play piano, ‘play’ with each other.

@Tbskejue glad it's not just me.

thanks all.
I found this other thread too, some good ideas here :https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/5013642-ideas-of-ways-to-spend-time-together-in-evening-rather-than-just-tv

if we have no plans, then i will watch TV (we do have one) and DH will spend time on his laptop. we are in the same room and still chatting and communcating, but he doesnt like what i watch and i dont like sport..

i'm usually mooching about online, MN forums etc

@thursdaymurderclub that sounds ideal to me really.

Play games together, play a boardgame, watch some YouTube videos as we have a few channels we both watch, we've gotten into doing silly quizzes on YouTube after dinner to decide who's doing the dishes, go for a walk, cuddle and read our books... Or we just go and do our own things sometimes.

Is it always you cooking?

Might be depressing but I would hazard a guess it’s incredibly common!

Ooh, can you share any?

Pre kids, listen to the radio, talk, read, go for a walk, go out for dinner/ pub, go to theatre/ cinema, go to friends, go out separately with friends or to our own activities separately.

Now we go out to our respective hobbies whilst the other looks after the kids.

I genuinely do find it hard to understand how people don’t know how to fill their own time. The world is absolutely full of interesting stuff to learn or do. If you are not constrained by poverty/ disability or living somewhere really remote, then find stuff you like and do that.

DH likes to read the news on his phone, he reads bits out to me that he knows I'll be interested in. I read books, sometimes do crafts, jigsaws etc. I also like YouTube videos if there's a particular project I want to do, and we often watch travel vlogs together. We do have a TV but can't really find much to watch atm, just things like Long Lost Family, Police Suspect No. 1.

At some point every evening it's time to brush the animals 😊. We currently have 5 dogs and 2 cats, they all get brushed every day, then ears, eyes and face wiped and teeth cleaned. Nails checked and clipped if necessary. That easily takes us about 40 minutes.

I really like that we can just sit in silence sometimes though, peacefully reading and dozing.

Bed, sex, maybe book if not sleepy.

@gofo I'm sure it is incredibly common !

@Moontoboon I'm not at all stuck for ideas of how to spend my own time, on my own. If I were single I'd go to the gym/for a walk/to the movies/to see friends/etc. assuming I had the mental bandwidth after a tough working day. I'm stuck for ideas of what DH and I can do together in the same space of an evening - so separate hobbies wouldn't work for us - but some very helpful ideas on this thread.

DP and I don't like the same TV, but we found an overlap in documentaries. When not feeling completely brain dead we play Scrabble. Chat in the kitchen while batch cooking. Play computer games together.

Mainly it's TV though!

We do a cryptic crossword sometimes. It's a good thing to do together as we have different approaches so complement each other. I'd be interested in any 45 minute board game recommendations too. We used to do Exit the game puzzle games for a while. I'd like to do regular walks - must get back into that the terrible weather got us out of the habit.