What does it mean when a man says I'm not his gf & we're not officially together yet after texting, calling, regularly seeing me, introducing me to his friends & close circle, buying me stuff and having sex for 4 months? Basically acting like a bf. We're both 20. During an argument about a trip he was going on I referred to myself as his gf and he corrected me. Sex happened only 2 times because I was a virgin & was cautious. He knew I was a virgin. Immediately after he was like 'even if you were my wife there'll be trips where I go just with my friends'. Umm.. I wasn't even his gf.. Mixed signals much? What the? He also called me wifey in the beginning but then said he'd be open to a threesome.. He apologized and never brought it up again after I got mad. He said in the beginning 'we will be in a relationship' & that he deleted the dating app. I took it as us being exclusive. He said he'd been with many women but that with me it was his 1st time having sex.. Sounds like bs. I doubt he was a virgin. He was also like 'I never felt so good with anyone before'.
We had some disagreements, I suspected him of being gay but he said he was straight. I also didn't want him to go on a 2 week trip with his friends to the seaside as he mentioned there'd be a club and drinking involved. They'd been doing this trip for years but still I found it hard to trust him, especially if he mentioned a threesome once. I said someone who loves his gf would take her on the trip with him. He disagreed & called me controlling. He said I was not his gf & that we haven't had that discussion. His reasons for not calling me his gf were that I didn't trust him, that we didn't have the official talk & that we weren't close enough to be official, weren't texting enough or talking on the phone, were seeing each other once a week or less (this is untrue though.. we were seeing each other usually 2-3 times a week). We were actually texting quite often & he was mostly texting first. I was usually the one arriving to him.. He also said a gf wouldn't make pretences & would ask if he was ok instead. He said it was too soon to say he loved me & that he needed time for love after I said if he loved me he'd take me on that holiday. I got hurt & unfriended him on one social media platform. I ignored him for 2 weeks but then came back with an ultimatum. He said 'after all of this I don't see the prospect of a serious relationship'.
I still don't understand why this happened. Did he change his mind about a relationship with me or did he never want me in that way? How can you turn someone off just because you were upset he was travelling without you all the time? Is that a reason not to call me his gf after everything we've been through together? I don't think he was multi-dating. We saw each other so often that I doubt he'd have time for that. I saw there were no other women he was entertaining on messenger. Now he's seeing someone else.
Did he want something serious but I ran him off or did he just want sex with no commitment the whole time? It really felt like we were heading towards something serious but he never took me off the market. Was he not that interested?