Stickers and emojis

Cantstandwearingbra · 2024-07-21T14:48:39+00:00

Went on a date Friday. Was okay and i enjoyed myself. He asked me to go out again. Yet he is not attentive , forgets to send " good morning beautiful " /" good night " and yes i'm needy and used to that from men i dated Then when i'm trying to talk to him his replies are emojis and stickers . I'm 35 and he is 55 . I feel like i'm talking to a child , So i just whatsapp'ed him " talking to you is like flogging a dead horse - i get emoji or sticker in reply " . He replied with sticker . Would you go on second date ? For me communication is important and i like to talk throughout the day. Want to block him now is it over reaction? TIA

RockingBeebo · 21/07/2024 15:55

I have been in a long distance relationship for 2.5 years. I am grateful there is no expectation of the obligatory good night/morning texts, we only do occasionally. He is so attentive when we meet in person and a couple of times a week we will have long conversations. But tbh I could not be dealing with the stickers or emojis.

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Cantstandwearingbra · 21/07/2024 15:58

yeah i know , but we only met Friday .
Could of at least put some effort for first few days in texts and calls , i don't expect all the time

But loads of 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 or whatever instead of reply or emoji is getting on my nerves . X

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ChilliSquib · 21/07/2024 16:02

So you have been on one date on Friday and he isn't texting you 'good morning beautiful'.

It's only Sunday. When was he supposed to be doing this?

cupcaske123 · 21/07/2024 16:04

OP you're not dating him, you've met him once. Sending good morning texts are for relationships.

Secondly, he sounds idiotic with his emojis and stickers. I couldn't be bothered.

ReframeFeelings · 21/07/2024 16:05

ChilliSquib · 21/07/2024 16:02

So you have been on one date on Friday and he isn't texting you 'good morning beautiful'.

It's only Sunday. When was he supposed to be doing this?

According to Craig David he should be chilling.

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Cantstandwearingbra · 21/07/2024 16:07

will block him
He got handsy immediately and wanted a kiss straight away , had to tell him to back off , so probably just wants a shag
and i want relationship

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Catoo · 21/07/2024 16:10

cupcaske123 · 21/07/2024 16:04

OP you're not dating him, you've met him once. Sending good morning texts are for relationships.

Secondly, he sounds idiotic with his emojis and stickers. I couldn't be bothered.

This.
Defo get rid
👍👍🤣🤣🤣🤣🥳🥳🤭🤭

Studiedlots · 21/07/2024 16:11

ReframeFeelings · 21/07/2024 16:05

According to Craig David he should be chilling.

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😂😂😂

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Cantstandwearingbra · 21/07/2024 16:13

@ReframeFeelings lmao 😂 😂

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cupcaske123 · 21/07/2024 16:15

Cantstandwearingbra · 21/07/2024 16:07

will block him
He got handsy immediately and wanted a kiss straight away , had to tell him to back off , so probably just wants a shag
and i want relationship

There you go, he was a creep and couldn't be bothered to communicate properly.

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Cantstandwearingbra · 21/07/2024 16:15

@cupcaske123 every single man i went on dates with was sending me these sort of texts. I thought its just gentleman like not necessarily for relationships

Oh well never mind . Thanks everyone who replied x

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SamW98 · 21/07/2024 16:15

So you’ve been on one date with a man old enough to be your father who tried it on within a few minutes of meeting. You’re expecting relationship styles texts but his style is more like one of the inbetweeners.

Yep this one’s not a love match imo

DramaAlpaca · 21/07/2024 16:22

Speaking as a woman closer to his age than yours, I suspect the age gap might be coming into play here.

When this man was first dating mobile phones weren't invented. I suspect he doesn't understand that younger women are much more used to communicating through messaging, because older people don't necessarily do that. DH and I aren't much into messaging, we are apart often but prefer phone calls. I'd find frequent messaging needy and annoying, and so would he.

Before I get flamed, I am absolutely NOT being ageist, this is my personal experience as someone of OP's date's age and of course doesn't necessarily apply to everyone.

SamW98 · 21/07/2024 16:23

DramaAlpaca · 21/07/2024 16:22

Speaking as a woman closer to his age than yours, I suspect the age gap might be coming into play here.

When this man was first dating mobile phones weren't invented. I suspect he doesn't understand that younger women are much more used to communicating through messaging, because older people don't necessarily do that. DH and I aren't much into messaging, we are apart often but prefer phone calls. I'd find frequent messaging needy and annoying, and so would he.

Before I get flamed, I am absolutely NOT being ageist, this is my personal experience as someone of OP's date's age and of course doesn't necessarily apply to everyone.

As a fellow older woman - the same age as the man in question - I do text regularly but getting ‘good morning beautiful’ texts from a man is key once would make me cringe so hard. Its so cheesy and full of shit imo

cupcaske123 · 21/07/2024 16:27

DramaAlpaca · 21/07/2024 16:22

Speaking as a woman closer to his age than yours, I suspect the age gap might be coming into play here.

When this man was first dating mobile phones weren't invented. I suspect he doesn't understand that younger women are much more used to communicating through messaging, because older people don't necessarily do that. DH and I aren't much into messaging, we are apart often but prefer phone calls. I'd find frequent messaging needy and annoying, and so would he.

Before I get flamed, I am absolutely NOT being ageist, this is my personal experience as someone of OP's date's age and of course doesn't necessarily apply to everyone.

Completely disagree. I'm closer to his age and message with texts, not stickers. I've been using mobile phones for over twenty years as has he probably. Imo, he simply can't be bothered to have a conversation as he's just trying his luck.

Watchkeys · 21/07/2024 16:30

Don't date anybody who doesn't blow your socks off in the initial messages. If he blows your socks off in the initial messages, then not on the date, stop dating him. You might wait a long time for a compatible partner, but you've got a life, right?

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Cantstandwearingbra · 21/07/2024 16:33

yes i've got busy life . I already blocked him we just not compatible

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sammylady37 · 21/07/2024 16:37

SamW98 · 21/07/2024 16:23

As a fellow older woman - the same age as the man in question - I do text regularly but getting ‘good morning beautiful’ texts from a man is key once would make me cringe so hard. Its so cheesy and full of shit imo

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Yep, I would be (and have been) totally turned off by ‘good morning beautiful’ texts. It would be the end of things for me. It’s so contrived, insincere, generic and ultimately meaningless.

SamW98 · 21/07/2024 16:39

sammylady37 · 21/07/2024 16:37

Yep, I would be (and have been) totally turned off by ‘good morning beautiful’ texts. It would be the end of things for me. It’s so contrived, insincere, generic and ultimately meaningless.

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And probably being copied and pasted to numerous women each morning

sammylady37 · 21/07/2024 16:40

SamW98 · 21/07/2024 16:39

And probably being copied and pasted to numerous women each morning

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Exactly. No chance of him using the wrong name as he goes for the generic ‘beautiful’ 🤮

Watchkeys · 21/07/2024 16:44

Yet he is not attentive , forgets to send " good morning beautiful " /" good night " and yes i'm needy and used to that from men i dated

This isn't very healthy. It's not necessarily that someone has forgotten if they don't send these texts, and it's not that you're needy if you want them. That whole thing is very judgmental and negative.

What you're used to from the men you dated isn't a good template for what you need in the future. You didn't end up in the relationship you wanted with them.

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Cantstandwearingbra · 21/07/2024 17:03

Watchkeys · 21/07/2024 16:44

Yet he is not attentive , forgets to send " good morning beautiful " /" good night " and yes i'm needy and used to that from men i dated

This isn't very healthy. It's not necessarily that someone has forgotten if they don't send these texts, and it's not that you're needy if you want them. That whole thing is very judgmental and negative.

What you're used to from the men you dated isn't a good template for what you need in the future. You didn't end up in the relationship you wanted with them.

That's true , thanks for advise X

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Cantstandwearingbra · 21/07/2024 17:10

Also it was just an example of " good morning beautiful "

Anything to show he cares about my day .

How was your day ? How was work ? What are your plans ? etc etc

But yeah maybe he is not used to this as i blocked him on Whatsapp and he is calling. maybe he prefers calls .

Thanks everyone who replied X

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Lurkingandlearning · 21/07/2024 18:52

Send him 🥱👋🏃‍♀️

Threeweeksold · 21/07/2024 18:55

Cantstandwearingbra · 21/07/2024 15:58

yeah i know , but we only met Friday .
Could of at least put some effort for first few days in texts and calls , i don't expect all the time

But loads of 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 or whatever instead of reply or emoji is getting on my nerves . X

You sound a bit high maintenance. You met only on Friday and you expect him to be texting you ‘morning beautiful’. That seems a bit ott.