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Angry DH regarding sexual history continued

32 replies

Cockaleedoddleydoo · 19/07/2024 20:33

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Hey everyone..

This is continued from my previous thread, linked above

My husband had googled the thread title after he found it on my phone and has read everything.

I don't want to carry on replying there obviously as he'll see everything I say

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My husband has been really strange recently. Keeps asking me questions about my past, bringing things up that I said years ago and generally being ho...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/5120486-husband-being-nasty-about-my-past?page=13&reply=136901420

OP posts:
Doggymummar · 19/07/2024 20:35

He can just Google your username and find the new one

StormingNorman · 19/07/2024 20:36

How did it go when he told you?

Cockaleedoddleydoo · 19/07/2024 20:38

Doggymummar · 19/07/2024 20:35

He can just Google your username and find the new one

Yes I just realised that.
Bugger

OP posts:
RobinStrike · 19/07/2024 20:59

Can you change username?

EnoughIsTooMuchAlready · 19/07/2024 21:02

@Cockaleedoddleydoo check your pm xx

Cockaleedoddleydoo · 19/07/2024 21:43

RobinStrike · 19/07/2024 20:59

Can you change username?

Won't it make my posts hard to read though?

OP posts:
RobinStrike · 19/07/2024 21:50

I don't think so but I'm probably too new to MN to know. Someone else could tell you

JumalanTerve · 19/07/2024 22:00

I hope he reads that thread and realises what a juvenile idiot he's being. Husband, if you're reading this, you have been radicalised by online grifters and the things you're saying are not majority opinions in the slightest. Stop it before it costs you your marriage

Apileofballyhoo · 19/07/2024 22:12

Stay safe, OP.

Justcallmebebes · 19/07/2024 22:18

Your DH is a complete wanker and so out of order and I hope he does read this.

You deserve better OP, much better

BouquetGarni224 · 19/07/2024 23:47

So he's checking your phone and scanning what you're doing on there, as well as torturing you & ruining your marriage over extremely minimal sexual experience that he knew all about what he married and had kids with you.
(And he was experienced himself too).

Doesn't sound fucked up at all.

BouquetGarni224 · 19/07/2024 23:49

You can't even get some support and perspective without him fucking that up too.

He needs mental health help.

Not that that'll fix his woman-hating, brain washable little mind.

BouquetGarni224 · 19/07/2024 23:51

Cockaleedoddleydoo · 19/07/2024 21:43

Won't it make my posts hard to read though?

You could just say on the thread that you've started a thread under a new username.

But he's probably going to scan all threads for your scenario.

mathanxiety · 19/07/2024 23:55

Even more proof that you need to leave this disturbed man.

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 19/07/2024 23:56

Cockaleedoddleydoo · 19/07/2024 21:43

Won't it make my posts hard to read though?

change username and post again with a less recognisable title.

StormingNorman · 20/07/2024 07:19

Can we please not antagonise the OP’s husband!

pinkyredrose · 21/07/2024 10:01

StormingNorman · 20/07/2024 07:19

Can we please not antagonise the OP’s husband!

I don't think people are doing that. His insecurities are his to deal with.

StormingNorman · 21/07/2024 11:10

pinkyredrose · 21/07/2024 10:01

I don't think people are doing that. His insecurities are his to deal with.

Yes - talking to the OP via posts when they know he is reading is antagonising him.

His Insecurities are his and the OP’s to deal with. So let’s not wind up the abusive man and not make her life any harder.

Are you really that stupid as to not realise the possible knock on effects?

pinkyredrose · 21/07/2024 11:15

StormingNorman · 21/07/2024 11:10

Yes - talking to the OP via posts when they know he is reading is antagonising him.

His Insecurities are his and the OP’s to deal with. So let’s not wind up the abusive man and not make her life any harder.

Are you really that stupid as to not realise the possible knock on effects?

Edited

Ex-fucking-scuse me?! I have every right to post on here without being called stupid. Who the hell do you think you are?

Do you think everyone here should watch what they say so as not to annoy Ops husband? Because if so that's making women responsible for a man's mood.

StormingNorman · 21/07/2024 11:28

pinkyredrose · 21/07/2024 11:15

Ex-fucking-scuse me?! I have every right to post on here without being called stupid. Who the hell do you think you are?

Do you think everyone here should watch what they say so as not to annoy Ops husband? Because if so that's making women responsible for a man's mood.

Not responsible for his mood or behaviour. But responsible for knowingly doing something which is likely to prompt more abusive behaviour towards the OP.

So take your righteous indignation and try living in the real world where men like this will take any and every opportunity to make their suffer.

pinkyredrose · 21/07/2024 11:30

StormingNorman · 21/07/2024 11:28

Not responsible for his mood or behaviour. But responsible for knowingly doing something which is likely to prompt more abusive behaviour towards the OP.

So take your righteous indignation and try living in the real world where men like this will take any and every opportunity to make their suffer.

You know what, you're right. Hey everyone, be careful what you say on here, let's not upset the Menz!

retinolalcohol · 21/07/2024 11:34

@pinkyredrose you know that's not the point she was making, though, don't you.

More like 'let's not make OP's life harder'. One of my friends was in an abusive relationship and I never would've antagonized him. Why? She'd have suffered.

Some people just itching for an argument! Confused

pinkyredrose · 21/07/2024 11:38

retinolalcohol · 21/07/2024 11:34

@pinkyredrose you know that's not the point she was making, though, don't you.

More like 'let's not make OP's life harder'. One of my friends was in an abusive relationship and I never would've antagonized him. Why? She'd have suffered.

Some people just itching for an argument! Confused

I don't expect to be called stupid just for posting my opinion.

@StormingNorman could at least apologise for that.

Garlickest · 21/07/2024 11:43

pinkyredrose · 21/07/2024 11:30

You know what, you're right. Hey everyone, be careful what you say on here, let's not upset the Menz!

😂 Exactly. Or, hey, your common or garden woman-hater can get infuriated by anything a woman says, does, thinks or is, unless it's what he told her to do. So let's all quietly disappear pending male invitation to speak.
Uninvited woman-speak may incur masculine wrath.
Can't risk wrath.
Sorry, Mumsnet, you're toast.

StormingNorman · 21/07/2024 12:19

I apologise for calling you stupid if you accept what you said was stupid.

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