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Missed whatsapp call

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thecatsarecrazy · 11/07/2024 23:39

I'm Trying not to overthink it I'm just curious how it happens. I was seeing someone for a few weeks only actually met 3 times, for many reasons it was never going to go anywhere. I messaged him last 9 days ago, didn't get much of a reply I replied again but he didn't and I've heard nothing since, so I just left it. No drama just let him bee. He accidentally called me tonight on WhatsApp, not enough for it to make a noise but his name popped up. I couldn't stop myself and just said u OK? And I got yeah u? I said yeah I'm fine thanks I imagine it was an accident but I had a missed call from u so was just checking. He replied yeah I'm still alive.
What's that all about? He stopped talking to me and how do u end up doing that? It's just unnerved me a bit.

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Sceptical123 · 11/07/2024 23:43

Weird how he didn’t explain as and accident - seems more like it was deliberate and he hung up before you could answer as he didn’t want to speak to you - just give you the historical ‘fb poke’ equivalent so that you’d contact him.

Sounds gutless and more trouble than he’s worth. Ignore.

pinkfondu · 11/07/2024 23:43

Block him

It's was probably seeing if you would message

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thecatsarecrazy · 11/07/2024 23:48

Yeah I'll try not to give it to much thought, he's a bit weird. Possibly been drinking from what I can gather he drinks most evenings.
2nd time I met him he drank probably half a bottle of rum then started getting arsy with me.

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Sceptical123 · 11/07/2024 23:48

😬

PrincessMee · 12/07/2024 00:01

He was looking at your photo and accidentally called. We've all done it.

Runnerinthenight · 12/07/2024 00:03

Oh fgs, no drama here - just block him, and stop overthinking it!

Moonshine5 · 12/07/2024 00:04

If he was into you, you would know
Move on

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thecatsarecrazy · 12/07/2024 00:12

Moonshine5 · 12/07/2024 00:04

If he was into you, you would know
Move on

I'm not into him, he's a nightmare with no redeeming qualities. I was just curious how u call someone by mistake. I deleted him days ago. As I said was curious how it could have happened.

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thecatsarecrazy · 12/07/2024 00:13

Runnerinthenight · 12/07/2024 00:03

Oh fgs, no drama here - just block him, and stop overthinking it!

No need to be rude is there really? I deleted his number days ago.

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Sceptical123 · 12/07/2024 00:17

He wanted attention, it sounds like he’s an alcoholic. Well done for having good standards and deleting. Bullet dodged

Moonshine5 · 12/07/2024 00:19

thecatsarecrazy · 12/07/2024 00:12

I'm not into him, he's a nightmare with no redeeming qualities. I was just curious how u call someone by mistake. I deleted him days ago. As I said was curious how it could have happened.

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Fair enough - sorry.
You sounded quite emotional / invested.
Anyone can do a butt dial by accident or just having fumbling fingers

Mmhmmn · 12/07/2024 00:21

thecatsarecrazy · 11/07/2024 23:48

Yeah I'll try not to give it to much thought, he's a bit weird. Possibly been drinking from what I can gather he drinks most evenings.
2nd time I met him he drank probably half a bottle of rum then started getting arsy with me.

Oof definite good one to avoid. I’m a bit old for the whole blocking thing people do now but would def be tempted in this case! Onwards and upwards OP.

hayley013 · 12/07/2024 00:28

The call button on what's app is up near where you'd clock to look at photo etc, then he's just acted like a dick

MahMahMahMahCorona · 12/07/2024 00:29

I'm curious as to how his name popped up if you've already deleted him.

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thecatsarecrazy · 12/07/2024 06:08

MahMahMahMahCorona · 12/07/2024 00:29

I'm curious as to how his name popped up if you've already deleted him.

He has his name on WhatsApp his number picture and name came up

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thecatsarecrazy · 12/07/2024 06:24

Moonshine5 · 12/07/2024 00:19

Fair enough - sorry.
You sounded quite emotional / invested.
Anyone can do a butt dial by accident or just having fumbling fingers

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I was a bit annoyed that he stopped talking but the last few days I just thought ah whatever he's done me a favour, I've been busy getting on with life working and keeping busy, then him doing that and acting like a dick annoyed me. The yeah I'm still alive made it feel like I had done something wrong when I haven't. He's not a good man. He's 45, takes valium and drinks whisky every night, lives with his mum, doesn't have a proper job he was doing delevaroo. Those jobs are fine if you do them every day all day but he wasn't, he sleeps in until lunch time and falls out with his mum like a moody teenager. The last time I had any kind of conversation with him he was done for speeding over 100pmh and has only had his driving license 2 months so will really be in the shit. I only met him 3 times and he was way too dramatic for me.

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BustingBaoBun · 12/07/2024 06:54

Meeting one time would've been enough for me, he sounds dire!

Staringatthewalljustmeagain · 12/07/2024 07:30

Wow. He sounds like utter scum.

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thecatsarecrazy · 12/07/2024 07:35

BustingBaoBun · 12/07/2024 06:54

Meeting one time would've been enough for me, he sounds dire!

First time we met he was fine, bit of an oversharer but had a nice evening, then 2nd meeting he drank to much, got a banging headache and started acting like a dick. I think he lies about his age. He told me hes 45 but he looks more mid 30s, I think he's possibly looking for older women to cocklodge with and he wasn't going to get that from me.

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Helpimfalling · 12/07/2024 07:53

Ugh I think this is my ex husband 🤦‍♀️
Unless there's numerous men like this around the uk....
Predominantly West Sussex.

I thought he was a one off 🤢

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thecatsarecrazy · 12/07/2024 08:38

Helpimfalling · 12/07/2024 07:53

Ugh I think this is my ex husband 🤦‍♀️
Unless there's numerous men like this around the uk....
Predominantly West Sussex.

I thought he was a one off 🤢

Unfortunately there seems to be a lot of useless men out there.

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GoldFrame · 12/07/2024 08:44

butt dial, easy done.

AlohaRose · 12/07/2024 09:17

There’s a lot of time and mental energy being expended here on someone with whom you were obviously incompatible from the first meeting. I’m not sure why you even got to 3 dates with this guy, never mind wondering why he had (fairly obviously) mistakenly called you on WhatsApp, never mind actually calling him back! Forget him and move on.

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thecatsarecrazy · 12/07/2024 09:58

AlohaRose · 12/07/2024 09:17

There’s a lot of time and mental energy being expended here on someone with whom you were obviously incompatible from the first meeting. I’m not sure why you even got to 3 dates with this guy, never mind wondering why he had (fairly obviously) mistakenly called you on WhatsApp, never mind actually calling him back! Forget him and move on.

I didn't call him back.
Maybe because like a lot of women my age.. and with children we don't get a lot of company or offers. I was lonely and at a low ebb. Now I know he's no good so know better, I had a good few days focusing on myself then he did this and it unnerved me. The line forget them and move on is very overused. I was forgetting about him then he called and annoyed me.

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GoldFrame · 12/07/2024 10:05

Ah, @thecatsarecrazy , I get that 💐