Do anniversaries matter

[Molly2008]

So I want to canvas option if your not married but in a long term relationship do you celebrate an anniversary?

we are married but we still celebrate our 'meeting' anniversay

Yes…it’s mine today!! Woop woop!

LTR here. Long distance, had never lived together. Over 10 years. Always celebrate our first meeting/date. Nice meal out or wkend away. Lush!

No. But I'm not a big fan of anniversaries including wedding ones. I think it's a private thing for the couple. And I'd also rather treat my partner well (and be treated well) all year round rather than on one specific day. So don't even get me started on Valentine's Day!!

They matter enormously to some people and not at all to others.

The important thing is that you and your significant other are on the same page about it.

Mine too! Happy anniversary!

Yes, we do celebrate our meeting anniversary. We are married now so we celebrate both.

We’ve been together 11 years. Not married. Always mark our meeting anniversary. Just us, no bells and whistles, just an acknowledgment of what we are, between us. A card, a little present, a nice dinner.

Do you @Molly2008

bit rude to ask and not Tell

Depends on the couple. We've been together almost 11 years and married for 6. Before we were married we celebrated our "meeting" anniversary more but now we celebrate our wedding anniversary more. But we'll still maybe go out for drinks if we're both free on the meeting anniversary. We just don't celebrate it as much as we do our wedding anniversary now.

We’re married now but on our meeting anniversary we always do something - even if it’s just an afternoon off and going to the cinema. We don’t get many dates with 2 under 4 so we try and make the most of the ‘excuses’ we have!

Not to me.

We've been together 32 years, will be married for 20 in Sept. We don't usually make a fuss for anniversaries but plan to go away for a few nights this year.

Haven't for 29 years.

I can't remember the date I met DH, obviously it wasn't that important. We do celebrate our wedding anniversary, we've not had a huge amount of money throughout our marriage so it's a change to do something nice.

Don't even know what date we met, mind you it was a looooong time ago

Yes, we're not married and we don't plan to, and we celebrate the anniversary of the day we met (which was also they day I asked her out). It's nice to reflect on how long we've been together, and our hope for our future.

We used to celebrate our meeting anniversary before we got married, after we were married we celebrated our 1st wedding anniversary but now only celebrate the big ones.

Nope. Both completely missed it this year I only realised when a friend who married 2 days after we met posted her annual wedding day vs now photo (its so cute) mentioned it and said suppose it doesn't matter considering we're getting married later in the year 🤷‍♀️

I think it should be entirely down to the couple, but I also think the couple need to be on the same page. A friend of mines husband 'doesn't do' anniversaries, whereas my friend loves to make an occasion out of things and loves a weekend away etc. Is it okay they have different views? Yes. Is it okay that because he thinks anniversaries are stupid he can't even meet her halfway with a card and ordering her favourite takeaway? I personally don't think so. I understand not wanting to make a massive fuss, and im not saying someone should have to make a big fuss if they don't want to, but actively choosing not to make even a small gesture, if that would make your partner really happy is just weird to me - why would you pass up an opportunity to make your partner happy? Aren't you supposed to want to do that?

Both of us remember of engagement anniversary but NEVER our actual wedding anniversary 😂

I nearly posted this today. It’s my ‘meeting’ anniversary but there appears to be a mismatch between my expectations & my DP as it hasn’t been mentioned. Trying to work out if this just means they aren’t bothered by days like these or they aren’t that bothered about me …

Yes we do. Will be 9 years in October.

No. Been with my partner for 15 years and have two children and, to be honest, we can't decide when it would be.

We celebrate our first date which was fireworks night, every year. 🧨🪅🎊🧨