Do anniversaries matter

[Molly2008]

So I want to canvas option if your not married but in a long term relationship do you celebrate an anniversary?

I’ve forgotten 8 out of my last 10. Anniversary dates don’t matter to me whatsoever. And the idea that I’d remember and celebrate someone else’s blows my mind.

I should add I’m very happily married.

We have been married for over 30 years and we don't celebrate our anniversary apart from big ones. I have no idea what date we met on or when we got engaged so there's no hope of celebrating those even if I wanted to.. I could narrow the meeting date down to the month as I'd just started a new job a few weeks before and thst date is on my CV but I couldn't even that close with an engagement date. I'm pretty useless with dates in general. Slightly bizarrely however, I know what date my sister had her first date with her ex husband. 😂

Nah. Has actually never even occurred to me to 😂 Not sure I could even pin down any date, although I do remember we met in September/October

We celebrate the day we made it 'official' as a Couple (Boyf / Girlf - cringe I know ) and our Wedding anniversary.

Been together 33 years, married for 28 we both regularly forget our wedding anniversary and neither of us could tell you when our first date was or when we became a couple.

We've been married for 31 years this August.

We usually forget our wedding anniversary to be honest. Sometimes we remember and will go out for a pub meal.

We were together for almost 21 years before marrying, but don’t celebrate either meeting or marrying. Very happy after all this time, but anniversaries don’t register with me. I don’t actually remember which month we married in.

Together 20 years, married nearly 14. Cannot now remember when we started dating (although day before I went to a friend’s wedding so could work it out). Tend to forget the wedding one more often than we celebrate it. But that suits us both. I was completely spooked when a then boyfriend bought me flowers to ‘celebrate our one month anniversary’ and then seemed to think I’d have been cross if he hadn’t.

I could have written this - totally agree

Married for decades remembered our anniversary twice. We dont do anything for it. We did for our 25th.

Married 35 years. Honestly? I usually forget 🥴

We have 3. Our first meeting, our handfasting and our wedding. Any excuse for romance, we love it!

What’s handfasting? (genuine interest)

We are 34 years married and we don't bother with anniversaries.

Sometimes? Been together 12 or 13 years, can't quite remember. The anniversary was last week. We both missed it, then I mentioned it a few days later as I remembered. He was in lidl buying some beer for the match and came out with a 'gift' of a laser measurer for me for it! TBF it will be of use so I am grateful.

If I do remember in advance, I usually mention it and book a restaurant or something. He has surprised me with a small gift in the past some years too (I don't think I've done that). It's not really a big deal to either of us but it's nice to acknowledge we've survived another year of companionship as it has been touch and go a couple of times earlier on in the relationship.

And mine! 25 years today but 31 since I got his name wrong and drunkenly argued with him until he gave in and went out with me. We don’t normally do much except marvel at the speed of time but enjoyed a meal out tonight. He’s my best mate.

The simple answer is they do to some people, but don't to most people.

I'm married, and we've only really noted our 1st, and 25th wedding anniversaries.
I haven't a clue which date I would acknowledge as first met / first date / first anything else, and no, I didn't celebrate them before we were married.
But, it's no skin off my nose if someone else wants to. It's down to each couple.

Been married 44 years. We met 5 months before getting married.

We celebrate the day we met and our wedding anniversary. We only usually go for a meal or get a takeaway for our meeting day but for our wedding anniversary we, at the very least, go out somewhere for the day and have a nice lunch out and evening meal. Sometimes we go away for the night (or longer).

Yes. Always. A card. Sometimes a meal.