dirty house

[ohdearymeeewhy]

Met a nice man a fortnight ago. Good job, good looking went ack to his house tonight on our third date. It was filthy, think grime everywhere, bathroom putrid. I'm gutted

Freshly laundered humans are much more appealing to be around 😁
There's nothing wrong with having your living standards set to somewhere above petri-dish OP!

He's hoping you will set to and clean it up for him.

I had one like this a while back, OP. His bathroom was revolting - shit bits decorated inside the toilet bowl, thick grime throughout the whole bathroom - his fridge looked like the vacation of choice for e.Coli, and his bed sheets stank. 41 year old police detective - I mention this for context, i.e. a bloke with a decent job, kids, one of whom lived with him, and of an age where he should know better.

NEVER AGAIN

Some of these men are so incredibly entitled and audacious. I'm also in my 40's and would be mortified if a guest felt uncomfortable bathing, sleeping or eating in my home due to unsanitary conditions. It's the bare minimum, isn't it, to expect a respectable level of hygiene!?

Strongly advise you do not pursue. If he cared about you he would care about your comfort. Men like this do not care.

Off to go and vom now, having just relived this dreadful experience whilst typing my reply!

Speaking as a family man in his early 40s with two DD, I wouldnt even consider a a relationship with a woman that has untidy standards. Especially being a person that cleans the house daily, do the bulk of family ironing, gardening etc. Incompatibility in hygiene standards will become a point of irritation and argument in relationship with time. Its hard to teach a person whose set in their ways about that, its either the standards are there or they are not. Unfortunately, I equate general house untidiness with someone that is likely to have poor personal hygiene standards. Personally wouldn't be comfortable going down on that person, harsh but thats what my mind will be thinking.

If I really liked him I'd tell him straight that his house is horrible and I'd need him to get a deep clean and a cleaner once a week from then on or otherwise I'd have to end the relationship.

I think it's a no from me. I don't want to clean his house and to be honest I have lost respect for him now